It always takes time to get over someone, a new crush helps. Another suggestion might be to make a list of all the ways you felt like your love added to your life and see if you can do those things for yourself, or learn to take care of yourself in the ways you didnāt think were possible before them. Though, we are not made to be islands and we can never do it all for ourselves. Just the best we can.
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thereās so many different things going through your mind when a breakup happens and i donāt think thereās this one thing that will make it go away faster, but you can try focusing on yourself and things you like...you can find new hobbies, new friends, new places!
Cause yeah, youāre single now and it kinda sucks but it wont suck forever lol
idk what im saying, but bottom line is it gets better the more you put love towards yourself instead of them, youāll realize how much more you deserve.
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Apr 9, 2025
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for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - iāve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being āoverā the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak:
this isnāt true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right afterāitās like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same pageāso space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that youāre not together romantically.
music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understoodāheartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol!
journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed!
hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ā¤ļøāš©¹
source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love
May 22, 2024
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got this from the book "this is me letting you go" by heidi priebe - which i also very much recommend - but to paraphrase, she says sometimes the biggest things you miss from a relationship are needs that are no longer being met, or ways you showed up/things that were brought out of you with x person that you miss, maybe moreso than the person themselves.
So, if you always went to art shows, finding another friend to connect with over that. Or if you only showed your vulnerable side with that person, redirecting and learning how to meet those needs for vulnerability with others. If you always laughed together, maybe watch a standup special. or if they made you dinner after a long day, order takeout when it gets hard and show up for yourself. etc etc on small and large scales! this is what saved me from the hardest times.
Plus also truly time as has been said. it will ebb and flow and everything is temporary - you will feel light again when the time is right! ā¤ļøāš©¹
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I like asking this at parties and on first dates and other introductory meetings. It's a pretty disarming question and usually elicits an honest answer. It's a gateway to much deeper convo about growing up and who the speaker is now. It has made a few people really uncomfortable though. I don't like to pry if they're off-put by the question. I usually follow-up with, yea I don't like mine either haha... (I like my flawed parents).
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Dive into the pool headfirst.
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