If I believe I've failed myself i have to ask: "am i mad at myself?", "why do i think I failed?", "was it possible to not fail"?(i ask this because sometimes failure is unavoidable), and most importantly: "can i forgive myself?". Sometimes it may be hard to forgive yourself but think about it like this. If someone did what you did, failed like you did, would you forgive them? Would you be less harsh one someone else? If your kind to others, why aren't you kind to yourself? Remember: your a person with feelings.
Now, if you feel like you've failed someone else, why? What makes you think your a failure? Did you do something, or is someone acting different and you just think you've failed? You have to remember that sometimes people just get mad and sometimes you cant change that. If you actually did something, apologize, if they don't accept the apology, drop it. You aren't responsible for others acceptance.
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I feel like when things go wrong in our lives it’s easy to blame the world for our issues and very few times do we take the time to reflect on ourselves and check if we are the ones making mistakes. Having flaws is natural but one must take responsibility for their action. Do a little self check and improve yourself constantly! (Be careful not to blame yourself for everything though)
Jun 7, 2024
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A healthy exercise for all of us that have to cooperate with other humans on a day to day basis. (I think most of us, right??)
From my experience working as a cook in a kitchen: major f-ups happens all the time. Maybe because something were not communicated properly, maybe because someone is a bit off or maybe because something important was just completely forgotten about by everyone.
Usually it's not a big deal, you re-strategise, change the game plan and everything works out just fine in the end. What I've noticed is that when people start calling each other out... that is when shit really begins to hit the fan.
To loudly announce "Who did WHAT??", "Why the FUCK would anyone ever??" or just "IDIOT!" are maybe sooome of the more obvious ways cooks telegraphs their feelings regarding these f-ups and mistakes, at least in a not so healthy workplace. Usually it is not this obvious, you probably know about these ways of critique since they're universal. Everywhere where mistakes and f-ups happen there'll always be people glaring, mumbling and trying to subtly imply who's guilty or just find someone to put the blame on and make feel bad. Somehow this always seems to be more relevant than to power through and solve the problems. WEIRD, I know.
But how do I go about trying to not be that guy, the guy more concerned about who did it rather than finding a solution, and what do I suggest you should do to avoid becoming that guy?
Whenever you find yourself in a situation where a mistake affects you, whether someone bumps into you at the grocery store or you and your peers fail to accomplish that common goal you all had in mind, the first thing that should pop into your mind is "What could I have done different to avoid this?". Always assume it's your fault.
Why? Because you know. You know FOR SURE it was a mistake, you know FOR SURE you didn't want this to happen to you or affect anyone around you. Sometimes shit happens, maybe you were tired, inattentive or just having a bad day, it doesn't matter. What matters is that it was an honest mistake and not your ~intention~. Now you may strive to correct it and make sure it won't happen again (even though it might and it'd be okey).
After this moment of self reflection you might find yourself in a situation where you come to the conclusion... fuck, I did nothing wrong... They did. What do you do then? Go through a similar train of thought, be kind, assume they meant no harm and that it was a honest mistake. Without bad intentions I think it should be difficult to be truly upset.
In the long run I think this exercise have helped me becoming more of self reflecting person, more kind towards other and especially towards myself. Whenever I don't live up to my own expectations I just reflect about what I should've done differently to achieve the result I want rather than thinking of myself as worthless. This to me is a huge key to improving and actually learning.
Thanks for the read if you made it this far!
And to all of you who think this is obvious stuff,
to a lot of people it's not.
Trust me on that one.
Feb 5, 2024
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realizing we are all just people who make mistakes. i might be the villain in someones story and that’s okay. i did all i could directly, i apologized and took responsibility and they asked i leave them alone so that’s what im doing. all i can do now is work on myself to try and make sure i dont repeat those mistakes that hurt others. don’t let the shame get to u and convince u that u can’t change. use your guilt don’t just sit and think about the what ifs or wishing you could turn back time and never do it. u can’t you just have to move on and be better.
remember ur mistakes do not define u but how u respond to them does.
Apr 19, 2025
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Why the hell did my parents let my watch this as a child. (its so good though)
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I don't care if someone believes or doesn't believe in ghosts or demons, even I am slightly skeptical about ghosts and the true meaning of ghosts. Even when it comes to 'haunted' dolls, I'm suspicious. Of course, there are dolls that I see and get weirded out or anxious around, but I normally round that up to paranoia. That being said, I have a love hate relationship with the idea of ghosts. However, personal beliefs or not, something about the Annabell doll scares me, and not like an "oh spooky!" kind of scared, like a genuine terror kind of scared. If I go out to an antique shop, and they have a Raggedy Ann doll, I immediately want to leave. Last year during October I found a Small Raggedy Ann doll for one dollar and I bought her for some "exposure therapy" and it's been fine. I keep her across the room looking out of the window (there is no way in hell I'm sleeping with her in my bed), I don't hate her, but if she ever moves ill probably cry. I can't get rid of her either because I would
1) Feel bad because she was literally being sold for $1
2) Fear if she got mad
I don't believe my doll is haunted but good lord she scares the shit out of me, something just feels so surreal about her, but I also adore her in a way. All in all, the actual Annabell doll scares the shit out of me. (also fuck the people taking her out on tour)
May 17, 2025