I'm so sorry☹️🩷. My friend group of 10 years just split unexpectedly this past week: it's a harrowing and complicated kind of heartbreak and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone.
Here are some movies to help you through some of the feelings you might encounter (apologies if I got any of the years wrong) :
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If you're feeling unhinged or directionless about subtracting this person from your life; if you're feeling ashamed, guilty, neglected, or exiled; if YOU were the one who was friend-dumped; if you're having a hard time giving up the memories and facing your new reality: Here are some on-the-nose recs for films to help you feel vindicated, and give you the strength to embrace self-care and having fun on your own (especially if there's the teeeensiest part of you that wants to prove to them that you CAN have fun and be okay apart from them. Like a platonic revenge bod):
•FRIENDSHIP (2025)
•THE BANSHEES OF INISHERIN (2022)
•MURIEL'S WEDDING (1994)
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If you kinda saw the breakup coming; if the friend was becoming someone you didn't recognize; if you've been ruminating on the issues and trying to trace back to where it all went wrong; if you're mostly feeling numb:
•I SAW THE TV GLOW (2024)
•FOX AND THE HOUND (1981)
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If your friend ever made you feel shut-out or betrayed; if they were a lowkey a-hole; if you feel strongly that they're the one in the wrong; if you feel like you got the short end of the stick; if you're insecure that they're thriving while you're hurting:
•THE SOCIAL NETWORK (2010)
•THE LAST FIVE YEARS (2014)
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If they were a fake friend; if they were changing you for the worse; if stuff was getting toxic; if you're better off without them and you KNOW it; if you're burning that bridge to BLAZES:
•HEATHERS (1989)
•MEAN GIRLS (2004)
•JENNIFER'S BODY (2009)
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If you're angry; if you're feeling like hurting someone or punching something; if you're hurt and thirsty for revenge:
•SERIAL MOM (1994)
•JOHN WICK + BALLERINA
•KILL BILL (or pretty much any Tarantino)
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If you don't want to think about your friend at all; if you just need a distraction or some background noise for comfort:
•INGLOURIOUS BASTERDS (2009): Watch a bunch of nazis die gruesomely!!!
•THE MUMMY (1999): Classic treasure hunt adventure
•WAITING FOR GUFFMAN (1996): Mockumentary about a small town community theatre production.
•GAME NIGHT (2015): one of the funniest modern comedies out there, imo.
•BULLET TRAIN (2022): action comedy with a quirky cast of characters. A really fun time and a go-to comfort film for me.
•A MUSICAL MOVIE (if you're into that): For a feelier, cry-it-out experience try "Tick Tick Boom," "Les Mis," or "La La Land." For pure unbridled joy, go for "Mamma Mia!" or "Mary Poppins."
•A CONCERT FILM! My personal favorites are MCR's "The Black Parade is Dead" in Mexico City, and of course Talking Heads' "Stop Making Sense"
Remember, there's no correct way to be feeling, and no one-size-fits-all way to grieve (or celebrate!) Take your time to process this in a way that suits you, and allow yourself extra attention and special care as you navigate your feelings.
Wishing you the very best🩷