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YOU HAVE EVERYTHING TO GAIN!!!!!!
AND YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE EXCEPT A BRUISED EGO!!!!
what would the 65 year old version of yourself tell you do to? listen to their wisdom!!
please keep me in your mind and heart cheering you on to do the things that scare you, like talking to a cutie stranger or going to that event this weekend :)
you have every. thing. to. gain. i could probably write an essay about how fascist regimes thrive when people are isolated and alone. but someone probably already wrote it!!!!
our collective power is everything!!! rejoice in other humans, we’re never alone ♥♥
AND YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE EXCEPT A BRUISED EGO!!!!
what would the 65 year old version of yourself tell you do to? listen to their wisdom!!
please keep me in your mind and heart cheering you on to do the things that scare you, like talking to a cutie stranger or going to that event this weekend :)
you have every. thing. to. gain. i could probably write an essay about how fascist regimes thrive when people are isolated and alone. but someone probably already wrote it!!!!
our collective power is everything!!! rejoice in other humans, we’re never alone ♥♥
Jul 19, 2025
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Jul 20, 2025
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🫥I used to have severe social anxiety to the point where I couldn’t look people in the eye. That was 20 years ago now (god, I’m getting old) and now many people mistake me for an extrovert. What has helped me most is practice. Talk to people, have the awkward moments, and discover you survive! It is vulnerable to open ourselves to others, but it’s also incredibly courageous. It builds your confidence and helps you to silence those anxious inner voices that tell you that every social faux pas is certain death.
Here are some lessons that I’ve learned.
- Test out your fears. Are they real or are people more generous/supportive than you expect? A lot of times, we’re being hard on ourselves because we’re afraid others will be hard on us. Just as often, people are generous, kind, and understanding. Let them surprise you!
- You feel more nervous/awkward than others will experience you. Or maybe they feel the same about themselves! Besides, it’s okay to be nervous. It just means you care and you’re invested in the interaction.
- If you feel stuck, ask people questions. Keep a couple of open-ended questions in your back pocket to get people talking. We love talking about ourselves and it opens doors for dialogue and connection.
- Slow down and leave space. Don’t feel pressure to fill every pause with a sound. Fill those pauses with your presence. Silence gives you time to think and digest what’s already been said.
- Conversation and connection are about discovery. Approach them with curiosity and see what’s possible! This isn’t about knowing your lines like a stage play. It’s improv, baby! Show up and see what unfolds.
- Finally, be gentle with yourself. No one is perfect. We all stutter and stumble, say dumb stuff, and even put people off! Keep trying to connect and you will find your people.
Good luck and much love to you! 💕
Here are some lessons that I’ve learned.
- Test out your fears. Are they real or are people more generous/supportive than you expect? A lot of times, we’re being hard on ourselves because we’re afraid others will be hard on us. Just as often, people are generous, kind, and understanding. Let them surprise you!
- You feel more nervous/awkward than others will experience you. Or maybe they feel the same about themselves! Besides, it’s okay to be nervous. It just means you care and you’re invested in the interaction.
- If you feel stuck, ask people questions. Keep a couple of open-ended questions in your back pocket to get people talking. We love talking about ourselves and it opens doors for dialogue and connection.
- Slow down and leave space. Don’t feel pressure to fill every pause with a sound. Fill those pauses with your presence. Silence gives you time to think and digest what’s already been said.
- Conversation and connection are about discovery. Approach them with curiosity and see what’s possible! This isn’t about knowing your lines like a stage play. It’s improv, baby! Show up and see what unfolds.
- Finally, be gentle with yourself. No one is perfect. We all stutter and stumble, say dumb stuff, and even put people off! Keep trying to connect and you will find your people.
Good luck and much love to you! 💕
Apr 27, 2025
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🤖It's funny isn't it, how often we compare ourselves to others when we are looking up and forward. Which is something I think you might be doing, looking forward instead of constantly looking back.
To preface I don't know you enough to make any assumption or tell you what to do, but this could be something you can fall back to that's in the back of your head whenever you feel this way!
Enjoy the little things! I doubt telling you not to feel this way or keep telling yourself you're awesome would work because they never worked on me, so just enjoy the little moments in life that makes you -- if not smile -- smirk a bit. You saw something that reminds you of a fond memory, you did something new that is small yet unique to you? celebrate those moments because those moments are what makes you inherently you. Someone here also said familiarity of yourself can be a way making you feel lame, but isn't that also such a gift because you are so in tune with yourself? You know what you're doing even if you think they are nothing comparing to others. And ultimately, maybe this could be a starting point for you to create/try/ experiment things too! If you think of yourself so far back already, what's to loose for you to break the status quo? right? Be the dryer sheet that could cause fire and burn down the entire house or something hehe. And if it goes to shit we just won't tell anybody about it. HA! To quote what I've seen somewhere during my lowest low during the pandemic- "There is no one like you, there has never been anyone like you, and there will never be anyone like you. Therefore, be yourself" beep boop bop beep boop
To preface I don't know you enough to make any assumption or tell you what to do, but this could be something you can fall back to that's in the back of your head whenever you feel this way!
Enjoy the little things! I doubt telling you not to feel this way or keep telling yourself you're awesome would work because they never worked on me, so just enjoy the little moments in life that makes you -- if not smile -- smirk a bit. You saw something that reminds you of a fond memory, you did something new that is small yet unique to you? celebrate those moments because those moments are what makes you inherently you. Someone here also said familiarity of yourself can be a way making you feel lame, but isn't that also such a gift because you are so in tune with yourself? You know what you're doing even if you think they are nothing comparing to others. And ultimately, maybe this could be a starting point for you to create/try/ experiment things too! If you think of yourself so far back already, what's to loose for you to break the status quo? right? Be the dryer sheet that could cause fire and burn down the entire house or something hehe. And if it goes to shit we just won't tell anybody about it. HA! To quote what I've seen somewhere during my lowest low during the pandemic- "There is no one like you, there has never been anyone like you, and there will never be anyone like you. Therefore, be yourself" beep boop bop beep boop
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🏆I’ve been known to gas myself up. I’ll walk into a room and announce that I love my outfit for the day. I’ll show someone a spreadsheet that I made and say that I’m in awe of my brain for having such a good idea and bringing it to fruition. And I can assure you that I’m laughing at every single one of my jokes.
It’s obvious how loving yourself and having confidence improves how you feel overall. We know this, we understand this. What I want to talk about is the lesser known impacts of believing in yourself, which is how the rest of the world interacts with you when you carry yourself with unshakable confidence.
On the surface, how do other people react when I’m giving myself a gold star? They giggle, sometimes they may roll their eyes.
On a deeper level, when you truly walk through the world knowing that you are that bitch, it creates an inexplicable magnetism. People notice you in a different way. Take a compliment on an outfit, for example. I wear cute clothes, but so do a lot of people. When someone compliments my outfit, what they are often actually drawn to is that they can tell that EYE feel amazing wearing my outfit.
I love job interviews. People find this shocking and confusing, but they’re going about interviews all wrong. I’m not trying to sell myself, sound like I know what I’m talking about, convince someone to hire me, none of this nonsense. I’m excited to talk about my previous work and skills that I’m so proud of and how amazing I am. I don’t have to tell them how valuable I am, how lucky they would be to have me- the way I believe in myself conveys it.
As mother (RuPaul) says, “if you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” We always talk about treating other people in the way that you want to be treated, but that starts with you. Are you nice to yourself? Do you love yourself? Are you the only girl in the world? If you can’t show up for yourself in these ways, it’s going to limit your capacity to show up for others.
We don’t have to pretend like this is possible every moment of every day. Most days, it feels like everything in our environment is trying to tear us down constantly (especially women!) and sometimes its all too much. Sometimes you just wake up and it’s just not your day. These things happens. Good news- you can try again tomorrow.
Worried about being labeled as delusional? You’re not- you are the baddest bitch in the room. Labeled as extra? Good. Take up as much space as you see fit. Vain? That’s fine. Some people can’t see what’s beyond the surface; the 700th selfie I put on IG has much less to do with liking my face and much more to do with feeling beautiful in my soul.
It’s hard to put into words. But when you believe in yourself, people notice. They won’t be able to put their finger on it, there’s just something about you that stands out. It comes through in our body language, our micro-behaviors, and the wavelengths and vibrations we can’t see and feel.
Try it out. Lie to yourself until you believe it. Then, watch the world start to fall at your feet.
It’s obvious how loving yourself and having confidence improves how you feel overall. We know this, we understand this. What I want to talk about is the lesser known impacts of believing in yourself, which is how the rest of the world interacts with you when you carry yourself with unshakable confidence.
On the surface, how do other people react when I’m giving myself a gold star? They giggle, sometimes they may roll their eyes.
On a deeper level, when you truly walk through the world knowing that you are that bitch, it creates an inexplicable magnetism. People notice you in a different way. Take a compliment on an outfit, for example. I wear cute clothes, but so do a lot of people. When someone compliments my outfit, what they are often actually drawn to is that they can tell that EYE feel amazing wearing my outfit.
I love job interviews. People find this shocking and confusing, but they’re going about interviews all wrong. I’m not trying to sell myself, sound like I know what I’m talking about, convince someone to hire me, none of this nonsense. I’m excited to talk about my previous work and skills that I’m so proud of and how amazing I am. I don’t have to tell them how valuable I am, how lucky they would be to have me- the way I believe in myself conveys it.
As mother (RuPaul) says, “if you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” We always talk about treating other people in the way that you want to be treated, but that starts with you. Are you nice to yourself? Do you love yourself? Are you the only girl in the world? If you can’t show up for yourself in these ways, it’s going to limit your capacity to show up for others.
We don’t have to pretend like this is possible every moment of every day. Most days, it feels like everything in our environment is trying to tear us down constantly (especially women!) and sometimes its all too much. Sometimes you just wake up and it’s just not your day. These things happens. Good news- you can try again tomorrow.
Worried about being labeled as delusional? You’re not- you are the baddest bitch in the room. Labeled as extra? Good. Take up as much space as you see fit. Vain? That’s fine. Some people can’t see what’s beyond the surface; the 700th selfie I put on IG has much less to do with liking my face and much more to do with feeling beautiful in my soul.
It’s hard to put into words. But when you believe in yourself, people notice. They won’t be able to put their finger on it, there’s just something about you that stands out. It comes through in our body language, our micro-behaviors, and the wavelengths and vibrations we can’t see and feel.
Try it out. Lie to yourself until you believe it. Then, watch the world start to fall at your feet.
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