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i truly believe that relational trauma is best healed through engaging with safe people again... it can be hard to build up that muscle again when your whole body is screaming to protect itself. but maybe baby steps? try trusting a little at a time and letting ppl earn your trust. you can also practice this in safe settings such as individual or group therapy. those are more protected/guardrailed ways of healing relational wounds.
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🧶sounds like there's some rough history there
maybe a close relationship with your dad isn't in the cards, but for your own sake it may be beneficial to dig into the past with a trained professional and release as much baggage as you can
that way you don't have to carry that father pain into other relationships in the future
I found myself needing to do the same thing, not for the purpose of restoring relationship with my father, but that ended up being a positive side result
maybe a close relationship with your dad isn't in the cards, but for your own sake it may be beneficial to dig into the past with a trained professional and release as much baggage as you can
that way you don't have to carry that father pain into other relationships in the future
I found myself needing to do the same thing, not for the purpose of restoring relationship with my father, but that ended up being a positive side result
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I’m very open with the fact that I was in years of intense therapy. I still get tune ups if I need it. I do believe we all have core wounds we’re constantly working on. I also think I’ve grown to be a very healthy person.
I have deep, deep father wounds that are never going to fully heal. I’ve worked on it, and they’re not bothersome most of the time. I recognize when it’s triggered and work through it. I just realize I’m going to probably live with it forever, the hope is that it gets smaller and smaller.
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Going from hyper independence to interdependence and learning to be in process with others has been.. work. But worth it. I’ve always been incredibly hard on myself if I hurt people- it’s always unintentional, but how dare I be a human who makes mistakes!! I still have to be extra kind to myself and talk myself off the ledge when this comes up. Funny that I found this meme just today lol
I have deep, deep father wounds that are never going to fully heal. I’ve worked on it, and they’re not bothersome most of the time. I recognize when it’s triggered and work through it. I just realize I’m going to probably live with it forever, the hope is that it gets smaller and smaller.
I have a history of abusive relationships that I’ve worked really hard to heal from. Stuff from that typically only comes up during conflict, but I’m aware of it and work on it. Thankfully it comes up with people who love me and that has been so healing.
Going from hyper independence to interdependence and learning to be in process with others has been.. work. But worth it. I’ve always been incredibly hard on myself if I hurt people- it’s always unintentional, but how dare I be a human who makes mistakes!! I still have to be extra kind to myself and talk myself off the ledge when this comes up. Funny that I found this meme just today lol
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