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TIRED, DEPRESSED, AND ENDING A FRIENDSHIP

I've gotten a grip on the terrible anxiety I've struggled with for a while. It doesn't feel like the world is ending today.
However, the lack of it has revealed that I'm essentially, at my core, a very very sad person, It's been hard to not get stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk and self-harming idealization. I feel so bitter towards people. I similtaneously feel like everyone is stupid and that I myself am unlovable. I don't know how to get out of it. Nothing seems to help.
In addition, I've finally concluded that I'm no longer compatible with my long-time friend. He's not fun to hang out with anymore, he's obsessed with people who've wronged him, and stuck on his neurotic fixations (which always rub off on me). He's a very traumatized person and I wish I could help him more but there is no way to do so. All my life I've forced myself to become "friends" with people who I barely like. It's time to let go. Being alone is much better than this bullshit.

@_kzr_

Jul 23, 2025

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@babyoblivi0n

big time of release! every phase is temporary <3

Jul 23, 2025

@ariascalling

Jul 23, 2025

@yumyumhamburgers

Thanks for saying this, it’s inspiring and I’m sure committing to these decisions will eventually pay off even if difficult at first

Jul 23, 2025

@chronicwebuser

i promise you once you make decisions that put you first — many blessings will come to you love!!!!!

Jul 23, 2025

@taterhole

I can relate to this a lot! It feels like it’s lifting but I’m not sure what is changing. Reading about schema theory felt like it helped me and I was able to recognize several that affect my view of myself and the world around me. I hope things become easier for you!!!

Jul 23, 2025

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