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smart ≠ wise

Remember that, smart alecks! Some more of my core guiding principles around this idea: Truth and fact are two sides of the same coin. They are interconnected but not interchangeable. On a similar note: Truth is complex and often paradoxical. If you think you can lay it out in black and white terms, sorry bud – you don’t have a handle on it. The capacity to hold space for seemingly conflicting ideas is essential. That means letting go of the idea that your truth is the truth. Critique something/someone only from a place of understanding ^ did a whole rec on this. To add to it: if you spend a lot of time criticizing those who you disagree with, whose benefit is it for? Mainly it’s a signifier to those who you do agree with that you’re part of the same in-group. That’s fine and it has its place, but constructively challenging the views and behaviors of those within your own community (including yourself!) is much more valuable. And on that note: Understanding ≠ condoning Most people skip the work of trying to truly understand because they’re afraid they’ll seem complicit. Say someone commits a violent crime. Trying to understand the familial, socioeconomic, and systemic circumstances that factored in – developing empathy for this person – does not mean you condone the behavior or that you care any less for the victim of their crime. You are not doing any good to the cause of peace of justice or whatever you claim to stand for by refusing to understand people (however fucked up and misguided they may be). ——— Ok that’s long enough, maybe I’ll drop some fun ones in another post lol bye

@solomonki

Jul 17, 2024

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being wrong

being wrong is cool. most people who are being right were wrong first

@yvonne

Dec 22, 2023

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Direct communication

I was spiralling bad bc of assumptions I made. Instead of withering away in my misery, I asker the other person whether their thoughts aligned with what my brain had cleverly predicted. My brain had assumed wrong and caused a great deal of unnecessary distress. Let this be a lesson to us all (mostly future me): just because my brain thinks it, does not mean it's true

@jahnneke

Mar 27, 2025

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Click on people's links and following their shit if you FW it

Life is too short to deprive yourself of cool art from your contemporaries.

@RKELLY

Jan 29, 2024

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Earnestly introspecting and dealing with UR BS. AKA: NOT aestheticizing dysfunction

A never-ending faulty quest but necessary evolution

@RKELLY

Jan 23, 2024

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Do / go alone!

concert? play? Reading? niche movie screening? Rave? Restaurant you want to try? whatever it is, try to wrangle friends if its up their alley (not a pro-antisocial message here) but if it does not work out, take urself! literally worst case scenario absolutely no one gives a fuck best case you make new circumstantial friends. Every one is busy making money and chasing what inspires them to stay here so schedules align once in a blue moon, don’t let that stop you from discovering / enjoying shit.

@RKELLY

Feb 21, 2024