Just hear me out. Forgetting their name immediately reduces how much you stew about someone. You can train your brain to immediately think of something else when you think of something in particular, say, the name of someone u dont fw. Eventually, your brain will just forget the original thing. takes work but ultimately saves mental energy in the long run
some people do things that are truly unforgivable and only time will heal the pain that those things caused because with time comes memory loss.
for the petty things, they usually don’t know or care that they’re not forgiven and holding onto the thing they did only hurts you because you’re reliving what they did and they probably aren’t.
i’ve forgiven a lot of people for shitty things they’ve done, that doesn’t mean i’ll ever speak to them again. forgiving isn’t always making up with the person, it’s making mental peace with the issue.
Going to stop actively sharing my hateful thoughts and instead put them into a notes where I can only have one listed a day so I stop being this full of hatred (I will be showing everybody my list to discuss them) (so it’s not really going to do anything ) (but something about it feels nicer)
Cooking and eating with people is possibly the most lindy activity of them all. Everyone needs to eat and at least one person likes to cook. very spiritually fulfilling
