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Having a kid

I’m not sure I’d really recommend this because it’s more exhausting and permanently life-altering than almost any other thing you could imagine. But being a parent connects me to others in a way I had never experienced before having my own kid. I love every child because I love my child. I believe every person is trying their best, is trying to be good, because I see that in him. I feel connected to the grief and suffering of other parents because I see how to love your child is necessarily to be on the knife’s edge of grief at all times. I have found parenting politically radicalizing because I cannot accept that my child deserves more than other children, that he gets to be safe and fed and surrounded by infinite possibility when most others are not. Having a kid has not necessarily made me happier, but it has given me a deeper understanding of the human condition, and I am grateful for that.

@lexis

Mar 16, 2024

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My Mothering 🐥🐣

We had friends over the other day and my friend said she’s paying attention to how I mother because she thinks I’m doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed 🥲. We’re the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (I’m a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasn’t expecting at the time. When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. I’ve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in “mother,” and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.

@mossyelfie

May 29, 2024

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Infant/childhood mental health

I’m a children’s therapist and a mother so it quite literally is on my brain 24/7. Grateful for the duel role because my work makes me a better mother, and being a mother makes me a better therapist. I could say so much on the subject but I probably wouldn’t stfu so I just won’t even start 🫶 but if anyone wants to chat I’m always down!

@mossyelfie

Jul 4, 2024

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Not talking in a movie Theater

At the risk of sounding like a crusty old codger, it's a bad development that lots of people nowadays talk at full volume and can't get off their phones in the theater. However laughing, crying, and shrieking–these are actually good.

@mbouwense

Jan 23, 2024

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When you realize someone you think is cool wants to be your friend

Feels amazing to really connect with someone new on a platonic level

@mbouwense

Jan 24, 2024

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VEGAN MAYONAISE

Easily one of the most competent vegan executions of any food item. It's painless to work into your diet.

@mbouwense

Jan 23, 2024