We had friends over the other day and my friend said she’s paying attention to how I mother because she thinks I’m doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed 🥲.
We’re the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (I’m a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasn’t expecting at the time.
When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. I’ve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in “mother,” and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.
May 29, 2024
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I’m not sure I’d really recommend this because it’s more exhausting and permanently life-altering than almost any other thing you could imagine. But being a parent connects me to others in a way I had never experienced before having my own kid.
I love every child because I love my child. I believe every person is trying their best, is trying to be good, because I see that in him. I feel connected to the grief and suffering of other parents because I see how to love your child is necessarily to be on the knife’s edge of grief at all times. I have found parenting politically radicalizing because I cannot accept that my child deserves more than other children, that he gets to be safe and fed and surrounded by infinite possibility when most others are not.
Having a kid has not necessarily made me happier, but it has given me a deeper understanding of the human condition, and I am grateful for that.
Mar 16, 2024
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I’m a children’s therapist and a mother so it quite literally is on my brain 24/7.
Grateful for the duel role because my work makes me a better mother, and being a mother makes me a better therapist.
I could say so much on the subject but I probably wouldn’t stfu so I just won’t even start 🫶 but if anyone wants to chat I’m always down!
Jul 4, 2024
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Semi-personal post but…
We sort of knew for a bit that our daughter had some things that weren’t entirely normal. We finally decided to go get some tests ran and it’s turns out that she might have some type of autism or neuro-divergence. This isn’t surprising as I’ve always known that I had some things as a kid that we never got to check out due to our financial situations. After a long zoom call and a few hours of paperwork, our next 2-3 months are filled with doctor appointments and occupational & speech therapy appointments for her.
Now, we have no issue with her being neuro-divergent or even autistic, but if I’m being super honest my initial thought was how this was going to throw off our routine and systems and plans and I had to stop myself and go ??? BRO ??? How wonderful is it that she’s going to get the help I never got!!! How amazing is it that I turned out fine without help; imagine how much better she’s going to be!!! So much support and so much help available today, so different than it was in the early 00’s when I was a kid!!!
It’s a beautiful thing to adjust your perspective and go from what could be a defeating attitude to instead accepting & even celebrating the cards you’ve been dealt and not letting them defeat you. I’m excited for her and our family and I can’t wait to see what this process is like and how much better life is going to be for her. Until then, I’ll listen to her monologue entirely Bluey episodes start-to-finish because she memorizes them all??? Amazing. Wonderful. Love her so much.
Jan 7, 2025
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For some reason this brings me into my parasympathetic nervous system
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FINDING SOMEONE ANNOYING AND IMMEDIATELY REALIZING IT’S BECAUSE THEY REMIND YOU OF YOUR YOUNGER SELF
OH BROTHER THIS GUY actually needs a lot of empathy and understanding
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Breaking my very thin, almost non existent air of mystery because I got a haircut I actually like, my favorite jeans fit again, it’s a full moon eclipse, 70°, and both of my kids’ birthdays are today!! MAGIC IS REAL AND I AM FULL OF LOVE! 💗 💗💗💗💗💗
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