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deeply seen by this essay in pioneer works broadcast by kate shannon jenkins. recommended reading for mothers (duh) or anyone who knows a mother (lol)
i’m 36, a single mom with two kids—4 and 8—two different dads. i’ve spent so long feeling ashamed and embarrassed by this but actually i think it’s radical as f*ck and i love my lil squad 🤲🏼
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We had friends over the other day and my friend said she’s paying attention to how I mother because she thinks I’m doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed 🥲.
We’re the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (I’m a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasn’t expecting at the time.
When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. I’ve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in “mother,” and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.
May 29, 2024
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Very thoughtful and well-researched look at influencers. Mom influencers are both victims of traditional gender roles and perpetrators of them.
Feb 4, 2024
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I’m not sure I’d really recommend this because it’s more exhausting and permanently life-altering than almost any other thing you could imagine. But being a parent connects me to others in a way I had never experienced before having my own kid.
I love every child because I love my child. I believe every person is trying their best, is trying to be good, because I see that in him. I feel connected to the grief and suffering of other parents because I see how to love your child is necessarily to be on the knife’s edge of grief at all times. I have found parenting politically radicalizing because I cannot accept that my child deserves more than other children, that he gets to be safe and fed and surrounded by infinite possibility when most others are not.
Having a kid has not necessarily made me happier, but it has given me a deeper understanding of the human condition, and I am grateful for that.
Mar 16, 2024
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this is a love letter to casually drinking fizzy drinks and herbal cordials from chintzy glassware at any time of day. impossible to be disappointed by this.
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