others have said the same but trulyyyy I had no sense of self for years because I based my worth on my partner ... so when we ended I felt like I had nothing.. i started therapy asap and truly worked on myself. meditation helped too! ☻ I had to befriend myself and get back to who I was because ultimately all we have is ourselves and to fall in love with yourself is so important! we have so much time to find another love, until then be your own <3 I know its easier said than done but there will be a time where you wont think of them at all and it wont matter like it does now. you'll receive the love you truly deserve in time... until then remember your worth!!!🤍😇🫶🏻
3d ago
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So much of us can get lost in the relationship with others that we can give up parts of ourselves. Do those things again that you once did before you met 'what's-their-name'?
Look in a mirror and speak to your flection as a friend. Giving yourself the advice and support as a friend to yourself.
The longest relationship that you will ever have is with with yourself. Show up. Tell yourself the truth. Be authentic. Be yourself. Love and support yourself.
Feb 10, 2024
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my ex, who i dated for a year and thought was the loml, the person i was going to move in with and get married to and adopt a lot of cats with told me that they had "mentally" moved on 6 months before they broke up with me. and my first thought what was our relationship? what were we doing? how did i not realise or see the signs and i felt really stupid. tbh i'm still processing this. but, i think it was on them to lmk and not for me to figure out. also i saw this pin on pinterest that said something like "what do i do when i'm always the one who loves more?" "congratulate yourself." you can't measure love but i think you deserve to be w/ someone who appreciates and values you just as much as you appreciate and value them. someone who puts in as much effort as you are putting in. the most important thing is to never question your worth. ik this must be so hard to deal with but you will get through this <3
Jan 11, 2025
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i’ve spent most of my life searching for romantic love and thinking something was wrong with me because i never got it. i prayed even though i’m not religious, i had a box filled with manifestations of the “perfect” guy under my pillow, i tried to go after guys i knew were meh because i thought u could make the love blossom, i did honey jar spells, i changed the way i looked, the way i spoke, my interests, i did EVERYTHING. this all resulted in a slew of horrendous situationships that tore down my self-esteem. after these, i definitely worked on myself and became much more confident and sure of myself, but still thought that a relationship would be the thing to make me truly happy. at 20, i had my first real boyfriend and he was “perfect”, or at least everything i thought i had ever wanted. he was attractive, tried to pay for everything, planned the most thoughtful dates, went out of his way to see me, was incredibly intelligent, kind, loyal, hardworking, took care of me when i was sick, and even respected the fact that i’m entirely celibate (like what 20 y/o guy is ok w that??). i ended up breaking up with him after a few months because i realized that a relationship was not what i actually wanted or needed, it was just what i thought about 24/7. not saying this is you, but the steps i took after our breakup might help with your situation. diversify and expand your sources of happiness/love as no one source will make you feel truly fulfilled. i started by doing 4 things: something that expanded my mind, something that earned me money, something that fulfilled me creatively, and something that fed me spiritually. for me this was college classes, a job at a restaurant, painting, hanging out with the people that i love more often, and joining a bunch of clubs at my school. i think our society places so much emphasis on romantic love, but other types, especially the love i receive from my friends has been the most unconditional and satiating. lastly, (again not saying this is you, it’s just a common reality) expecting one person to satisfy all of your need for love is not only dangerous for you (if they leave, you’ll be crushed) but also unfair to them. maybe i‘m just yapping to yap, but i hope this was helpful.
Jan 1, 2025
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Relationships seem to be a big theme on this social media platform ! And I’ve seen a lot of great advice for dating!! On Sunday I met this hella cute girl through my friend’s friend and I was so nervyyyy I didn’t ask for her number or talk one on one much… I talked with my friend’s friend and we exchanged instas (big fan of getting people instagrams then never seeing eachother ever again but follow forever) and i happened to find cute girls insta… i am going to message her today and shoot my shot 🫣 #nerveracking I’ve only been in one relationship — started at 16, lasted for 5yrs, ended a year ago — so I’ve been single for a year and first time making a move with anyone let along pretty girl ! (Ex was man…)wish me luck if it doesn’t work out I’ve learned to love ‘oh wells’ so we shall see 🤭
May 27, 2025
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i used to be terrified of karaoke!!!😅 i never sang and was scared I'd embarrass myself.. it wasn't until this year I decided to not care about what others thought! it doesn't matter! Nobody cares but me.. its not that serious!!!🤣 so proud of my drunken performance of Iris by the goo goo dolls 😎it suckedddd but the crowd cheered anyways! life is so much fun when you're living for yourself😇
5d ago
I don’t know why this is so funny to me I quote it so often nobody ever knows what I’m referring to 😭if I’m the oldest in the room I’m the 56 year old woman… if you’re older then me it’s you
Jun 3, 2025