we are made to feel like these are prudish or closed-minded things to hold close in our lives (or to prioritize while making big decisions)... but they aren't!
whatever that means to you. purity isn’t linear or even a true metric in the end it but do your best to hold space for the “good” with a healthy dose of pragmatism.
This was really impactful for me; the analogy is, your life/your heart is a room (or an apartment, a space, etc) and relationships are all about inviting people into that room. Intimacy is letting them into the room and knowing that they might touch stuff, move furniture around, or change the way you’ve laid the room out. Transparency is letting people see the room, but keeping a glass between them and the space— they can see, but not touch. I think relationally we all have impulses toward transparency instead of intimacy, and it’s easy to say “I let you look at my room, that was intimacy,” while maintaining the glass that separates people from the room. Be intimate! Let people pick up the tchotchkes in your heart and move the furniture.
i’ve always struggled to put my emotions into words and express them outwardly in a way that makes sense to others/doesn’t make them uncomfortable/is seen as societally acceptable. i feel like as the internet evolves and becomes more cynical and less genuine, earnestness online is becoming a lost art. sincerity can be scary but i think we all need to learn it. i think sincerity and earnestness and keeping our hearts big and kind will save all of us in the end
