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Itās very hard to do, yet, we donāt need friends that lasted for fucking years and yet, still second guess your decisions.
We can always make new friends.
And most importantly, we can still love people that arenāt in our lives anymore.
Feb 14, 2024
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Iāve had sprinkles of acquaintances and light friendships with people over the years that I sometimes feel bad about losing touch with. But sometimes itās nearly impossible to keep in touch with everyone and still have time to care for yourself and your core people. Iāve tried to stop apologizing for that and just try to let people know I appreciate them from afar. I feel like the older I get the more intentional I have to be with my time and the more healthy boundaries I need to keep. It may disappoint some, but true friends get it, and there will always be an ebb and a flow as life changes. I also feel like social media has wired us to be so hyper-connected all the time and itās stressful to live up to the expectation of staying in constant communication with everyone youāve met and liked. Growing up is realizing you can like and enjoy the company of many people and you may not have the time or energy to extend to everyone you want. (And actually itās also okay not to want to!) Not everything and every connection can stay the same and I need to constantly remind myself of that. I deserve to make space and time for myself so I can love my people better.
Mar 4, 2025
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I just don't think all friends are forever. I used to think every friend was worth investing in and fighting for to keep around for as long as possible, but it's becoming clear to me that it isn't always the case. Sometimes life situations change, or personalities change, or even the things you had in common with someone changes, and suddenly it's not the same. And that's okay. Other times it's the realization of self-growth and improvement that shifts you from friendships. I had one friend that I used to love to...well, gossip with. And at some point that desire to gossip dissipated from my life (for obvious reasons) and that friendship didn't seem that attractive anymore since it wasn't what I wanted to do. I remember when we felt the drift happen, it was so awkward for a bit but I genuinely feel like whenever we connected it would just become...toxic. And it wasn't like they made me worse; we both made each other worse. The idea of 'I have to leave them, they are bringing me down' is BS - it's a two way street buddy. They made me want to gossip / I made them want to gossip. You have to own your part in it. IDK! I just think at 30, there are people I though I'd be close to today that I am not close to at all and although I might miss them, I fully understand that I'm better and healthier and more sane because of that distance. IDK. I'm caffeinated rn. And in my feels. And Bon Iver isn't making it better!!!
Sep 25, 2024
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People change people grow apart and thatās ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence itās already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless Iām reminded 25/8 and while Iāve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; itās somehow even harder for me to realize when that itās ok if people are growing apart from me. Itās inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes itās just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and thatās ok.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i āchangeā friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatās besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iāve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youāre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
Mar 13, 2025
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Today is the release of my new EP, and being an independent musician is HARD AF.
So Iām feeling down, because I know this project, the one I poured my heart and soul into, will not reach all the places and people I would want.
So here it is, my GARAGE SALE. Hope you like it ā¤ļø
Aug 9, 2024
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