basically anything you've been thinking about trying out- DO IT NOW! breakups are always painful but from personal experience, the ones that hurt the least were the times where i had my focus set on what i really wanted to do but maybe didn't before because i was focused on the other person.
Apr 3, 2024
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One trick that's helped me is to focus on what I'm gaining instead of what I'm missing. Like, maybe you're catching up on that show you've been meaning to watch, or finally getting some alone time to recharge. That stuff's important too! Another thing – try to limit your social media time when you know you're feeling vulnerable to fomo. It's way too easy to fall into the comparison trap. And remember, there'll always be other chances to hang out and have fun. This isn't your last shot at a good time, I promise. Sometimes the chillest nights at home end up being the most memorable. So take a deep breath, do something you enjoy, and cut yourself some slack. Fomo's just your brain playing tricks on you. You're not really missing out - you're just doing your own thing. And have a speedy recovery!
Jul 18, 2024
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i went through a horrifically bad, messy, painful breakup late 2022/early last year and i still think about it often, but what helped me the most was
1. blocking them and COMMITTING to not checking their social medias (including stuff like Spotify). For me I focused most on the awful sinking feeling I'd get when I check, and I have slowly over the past year been able to ween off of checking it
2. truly and genuinely spend as much time with your friends or occupied as possible. when you're not with your friends, spend your time doing a hobby you love - especially a hobby that can cause some sort of material change, whatever that is
it also helps to get a haircut or make some dramatic change to your appearance/surroundings. anything fresh and new!!!!!!!!!
also do not expect to feel better immediately, or even with weeks, months, a year....it takes a very long time to get over relationship trauma and you shouldn't beat yourself up for not being over it!!
Feb 14, 2024
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short-term, i think you need to focus on getting through this “hang-out” (whether that be “pre-gaming” beforehand or simply distracting yourself) then evaluating what you even want with this guy (friendship or dating, etc.). next, stop yourself the next time you find yourself spontaneously making plans or joining in on them. if you have a habit of canceling/flaking on people, then it’s probably a good idea to stop going out with other people for a little while.
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(if you wfh) i think it’s ok to move really slow in the morning these days
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it’s my first time just staying in my apartment and i feel so relaxed and free
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truly shaped me in every way imaginable
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