reinvention for the sake of reinvention is silly. I'm sure you're a cool person as is, and change and growth are good, but you shouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater and just randomize a new set of hobbies and personality traits and whole vibe...
figure out what values you're committed to, figure out what you like about yourself, figure out what traits you value in others... explore, meet people, learn from their perspectives, keep an open mind, try new things. Explore art in different media--it doesn't have to be fine portraits and sculptures... sometimes you just go from being a TV person to being a movie person and movies start to give you new perspectives.
but don't just pick up personality traits ad-hoc. keep a focus on who you want to be and stay directed towards that goal. explore, but don't get distracted, don't get lost.
Apr 18, 2024
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i understand ur struggle, and its a very real thing to feel as though you have no identity in a capitalistic society that "sells" you your personality and interests. the best thing i reccommend you do is to unlearn that behavior first. unlearn to rely on items as a means of self expression. yes ofc fashion and makeup are great ways to express who you are (things that i love and partake in) but its important to recognize that this is a behavior we are taught; you buy something in the hopes it will achieve something, like how we buy band tees even tho we're total posers because we want to seem cooler than we really are. to live authentically and to discover who you really are as a person, you need to question WHO you are. what are your values? what are your thoughts on life? how do you feel about your existence? our life on this earth is limited and this is something everyone, regardless of religion, can agree on. instead of trying to find your identity thru what you can purchase, try to find it by questioning what it is you want from life. eventually, you will find that as you explore your values, morals, and desires you will naturally gravitate towards things that fulfill that. for example, i have a personal interest in human health and biology and i explored this interest by learning about nutrition. now, i love to cook and i love to make my own recipes. finding yourself shouldnt feel like a task that needs to get done. its more so something you do for the rest of your life, even as u die. to live is not "to find yourself", but rather to live a life that feels fulfilling. hope this helped!
Jan 9, 2025
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so long as the motivation is guiding you towards becoming more of your truest self and not away from it. reject consistency, humans are too complex of beings not to change
Oct 1, 2024
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Went through a period like this recently, it helps to think of it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and discover new things that you enjoy.
I think part of this is recognition that maybe you’ve grown and you no longer get the same enjoyment out of things that you used to really like. That’s ok!
take some time to try new activities or hobbies. Pick up new ones and drop old ones as much as needed. As you try new things, try and reflect on what you like about them or whether it’s giving you what you hope to get out of it. As you’re trying these new things, go back to the old and see if it sparks joy like it once did.
Try to approach it from the perspective of learning more about yourself rather than trying to fit yourself into a mold that you may have outgrown.
Jan 23, 2025
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I pulled together all the good advice I could on how to get a men's summer wardrobe together cheap. I hope it helps somebody.
Apr 11, 2024
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I feel like this place isn't about people but about recommendations, right? forget the influencer, forget the individual, just browse and talk about cool shit and whoever says something good, that's good. that's what I liked about reddit, back when I actually liked reddit.
I haven't found many people I want to follow, and I'm not really looking.
Mar 3, 2024
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I've been enjoying new clothes, and experimenting them with fun ways, so much lately that I need to keep reminding myself of this. Not every excursion outside needs to be fresh and new and experimental. If I am going out and I need a warm sweater and I need my sneakers and I already have a fit in mind with those pieces, I can just wear it, I don't need to reinvent the wheel every time.
Feb 28, 2024