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holding space for one without the other will inevitably lead one into depression. knowing life is both beautiful and horrible at the same time is the best way. and! existing in the world with the assumption that everyone is grieving makes one’s perspective a more compassionate one.
Apr 26, 2024

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positive nihilism love this
Jan 11, 2025
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livvsdiary my preferred brand of optimism
Jan 31, 2025
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I experienced this today. Grieving the end of a relationship and struggling to accept a new family dynamic. Fighting depression. A group of us talked about three things we were grateful for and it helped to try and name them. Hope over fear.
Aug 31, 2024
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i think about this all the time, both are always relevant. it’s like impossible to feel just one emotion at a time
Jul 23, 2024
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It's a really crazy thing to experience, grief is a feeling that is shared-- I think-- across animals, it's one of the deepest feelings we have that is also felt by others, not just humans. But since I can only speak for humans, here it is. I think grief is about as bittersweet as it gets. Grief is the feeling of absence; the feeling of losing a love that was once there, which is to say, there is a part of you that go to experience that love and that's something to be grateful for. I've found that grieving people who are still alive is so strange, there's always a part of me that wants to will the person back into my life but I always wonder if it's worth it. Sometimes I also grieve for my younger self. All the endless possibilities of what I could've been if the circumstances were different. It can make you spiral a bit, so I suppose a word of advice (that no one really asked for and that's okay): find ways to ground yourself, find people who help you ground yourself, and always remember that you're here and that's enough.
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it’s an emotion (heartbreak is like this too) that you are unable to understand or fully imagine until you’ve gone through it. it’s gut wrenching and you feel it physically. i don’t think it’s something you have to (or can) ever “get over”. a lot of times people show that diagram of grief where the grief is a ball in a cube and the cube is your emotions/mind and the ball is your grief. and at first the ball takes up the entire cube. and the difference over time is not that the grief shrinks but that you get more space around it. i think for me what i’ve come to embrace about it, as i’ve worked through grief with loved ones that i’ve lost is 1) yes, to love is oftentime to lose; but to lose is to have loved, and that is better than never having love in your life. and 2) grief does this weird thing to most of us where it pops up whenever you see or experience things that remind you of those you miss. and at first it is painful or maybe even feels like a nuisance, but i’ve come to embrace it. i am so glad that my mind HAS clung onto parts of those i loved no longer here and that i feel or think of them in those little moments. i don’t think you have to be religious or even spiritual to appreciate that one.
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