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It's a really crazy thing to experience, grief is a feeling that is shared-- I think-- across animals, it's one of the deepest feelings we have that is also felt by others, not just humans. But since I can only speak for humans, here it is. I think grief is about as bittersweet as it gets. Grief is the feeling of absence; the feeling of losing a love that was once there, which is to say, there is a part of you that go to experience that love and that's something to be grateful for. I've found that grieving people who are still alive is so strange, there's always a part of me that wants to will the person back into my life but I always wonder if it's worth it. Sometimes I also grieve for my younger self. All the endless possibilities of what I could've been if the circumstances were different. It can make you spiral a bit, so I suppose a word of advice (that no one really asked for and that's okay): find ways to ground yourself, find people who help you ground yourself, and always remember that you're here and that's enough.
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itās an emotion (heartbreak is like this too) that you are unable to understand or fully imagine until youāve gone through it. itās gut wrenching and you feel it physically. i donāt think itās something you have to (or can) ever āget overā.
a lot of times people show that diagram of grief where the grief is a ball in a cube and the cube is your emotions/mind and the ball is your grief. and at first the ball takes up the entire cube. and the difference over time is not that the grief shrinks but that you get more space around it.
i think for me what iāve come to embrace about it, as iāve worked through grief with loved ones that iāve lost is 1) yes, to love is oftentime to lose; but to lose is to have loved, and that is better than never having love in your life. and 2) grief does this weird thing to most of us where it pops up whenever you see or experience things that remind you of those you miss. and at first it is painful or maybe even feels like a nuisance, but iāve come to embrace it. i am so glad that my mind HAS clung onto parts of those i loved no longer here and that i feel or think of them in those little moments. i donāt think you have to be religious or even spiritual to appreciate that one.
Sep 25, 2024
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The best way is to just accept your grieving process. Accept that you are feeling things and accept your reactions to those feelings. that's extremely hard, i know. You probably just want to distract yourself instead of dealing with the elephant in your brain. But being upfront with yourself and your feelings really helps.
Maybe, instead of longing the past, celebrate it. Instead of bringing yourself down because you don't have them anymore, remind yourself of how lucky you are to have had that person in your life.
Aug 19, 2024
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holding space for one without the other will inevitably lead one into depression. knowing life is both beautiful and horrible at the same time is the best way. and! existing in the world with the assumption that everyone is grieving makes oneās perspective a more compassionate one.
Apr 26, 2024
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Yea yea I know that's the most corny, most BORING answer but it's the truth. Today, my friends and I drove 30-45 mins just to go to wingstop. Why? Because we had never tried it before. It was a long endeavor, but now I will always have those memories with me. Don't be afraid to try things, especially the stupid little things; I find that those are the ones worth living for.
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Once I give you a contact picture on my phone, that shit is never getting taken down. I donāt care if we never speak again, I donāt care if you did me super dirty or vice versa. Once itās done thatās it.
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I'm personally a very sentimental person, so, every so often I take a good look at my jewelry. You see, I am composed of everything that people have gifted me. From necklaces I have gifted myself, to rings my parents have bought me, to bracelets my ex has made me. Nonetheless, I like to remember each and every memory attached to these pieces of jewelry, they remind me of who I once was, how much I have grown. Here's to new beginnings, old endings-- and everything in between.
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