Rec | DONT? LOL

Rec

💞

Rec'd on 💔 Breaking up when you’re still in love and nothing is wrong

idk... i mean if you guys end up missing each other and wanting to try to make it work, you will. taking some time apart so that you can both consider your lives without each other is not a bad thing, but if you get to the point you'd rather be with than without.... make it work.... people are like "dont move for a man" or woman or what have you but i personally believe in love....... see clip attached. "perfect" and "so in love" doesnt come around every day....

@sola

May 6, 2024

see likes

Comments

Make an account to reply.

@zoejane

He is going to school where we are now (far away from where I’m going) and can’t really move for at least three years… I hate long distance but am really hoping we reconnect in the future :,)

May 7, 2024

@sola

zoejane i wish the best to you both in your studies and my advice is to use these years wisely unencumbered by love and partnership. follow your whims and make decisions with the freedom of a solo traveler 🩷

May 7, 2024

@paigey_d

zoejane my husband and I did long distance for two years!!! We dated for 9mo then he went to grad school away from where we’re from for two years, then he came back and we lived together for a few years now we’re married!!! If it’s for school or you have a definite end day, I say do long distance! You can go visit him on long weekends, and he can come back for school breaks. It’s actually so cute and romantic! Don’t break up just because of long distance schooling with a definite end date! Now on the other hand if he’s just like, moving away indefinitely, that is harder. But for school? Make it a cute long distance romance!

May 7, 2024

@paigey_d

zoejane re: my last comment, I meant definite end-date to the long distance. Also want to add that I was in grad school at the same time and it was nice to be able to focus on studies and not date randos at the time. If you’re also in school your breaks will generally align and you’ll basically get to spend 6mo out of the year together.

May 7, 2024

@nunjournal

Right I think there is a balance to be struck between not taking a genuine love for granted vs. knowing there are tons of people out there who will love you and vice versa.

May 7, 2024

@sola

nunjournal real... i think a LOT of emphasis these days is put on being independent and lots of people will love you, which is true. i feel that less is put on commitment to one another and i will be that voice in these times

May 7, 2024

@taterhole

sola I’m with you on this 🤝

May 7, 2024

Related Recs

Rec

🤷

It depends

My girl and I dated for a year, broke up and she moved across the country with another guy for two years. Didn’t talk at all in those two years. She moved back and our ”one time” hook up turned into a 6 year relationship. So idk I feel like it’s cool if y’all know y’all love each other enough. Just have to make sure it’s worth it, you know? I’m old though and I believe in all that mushy romantic shit so eh.

@ion_know_

Mar 9, 2025

Rec

❤️

REMIND YOURSELF WHY

sometimes you gotta remind yourself why you broke up — even if they broke up with you or it wasn’t mutual etc etc, theres always good reasons even if it’s just “they dumped me” like okay yes and do you want to be with someone who would dump you no (even if maybe it doesn’t feel like that rn). Reminding yourself of the things that make you incompatible helps you 1) process and move forward 2) know what to look for in your next relationship eventually! What were the needs that you always sort of wished they’d met? Interests you wish they’d shared? at some point it will be good to consider all of the good things that were there so you can look for those in the Future but now isn’t that time … Also: -Read a long and easy book literally give your brain a break from your thoughts (this always helps me reset) -spend time with your friends and reconnect with old ones or people you just sort of lost track of because you were in a relationship and didn’t have the social time. Build up other sources of love!

@cl0e

Jun 28, 2025

Rec

🤝

SURE, BUT ONLY IF YOU’RE WILLING TO DO THE WORK IF IT FALLS APART

Boundaries. At work you’re coworkers, not dating. Do not bring your dating relationship into the work place. Be realistic going into it. Know there’s a likelihood you’ll have to manage hurt/hard feelings if it ends. That’s part of why you keep the work relationship separate. You can use that as a natural way of being at work, even if it ends. What you can’t do it play out shit at work, if you’re together or not. Keep. It. Separate. Have this conservation and agreement beforehand.