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i had an insane crush in 2019 on my friend and i completely lost my head it got pretty unhealthy at one point especially after she started dating this other dude so i had a talk with her and we both were like we want to be in eachothers lives for sure but i had to be like this as is does not work i can’t hear about your relationship problems while i feel like this. didn’t talk to her much for about a month or so and then i went to new york and we hung out it was great and normal and now im great friends with both her and that guy, she’s still with him. can’t even imagine seeing her through a romantic lens anymore. every time we are in the same place we see each other and it’s always just so lovely
but yeah all that to say i think just have to have a super honest conversation where you draw boundaries clearly and figure out where to go from there what both of you need etc
Jun 10, 2024
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i am friends with my most recent ex, we dated for five years and our relationship was basically just friendship at the end. we didnt rly have a break between dating and friendship so there was a weird boundary blur (eg. overly involved emotionally in his life/being his therapist) and i had to take a big step back. definitely take time apart. now we have a lot of distance and hang out once in a while but not too often n it's a good balance of not having any weird grudge post-break up but also not having a strange pseudo emotional relationship still. all this to say... take ur time! listen to ur gut! set boundaries for urself! take space!
Mar 12, 2024
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Last year I had a brutal crush and confessed like 3 months after meeting her. Rather than throwing the baby out with the bathwater, she was polite and kind yet firm about the necessity of me killing my feelings, as she still wanted me around but just as a friend.
I can't say that it was easy for me to get over those feelings as I was very much in a state of limerence, but I knew that she was worth having in my life, even if it wasn't in my idealized form.
Fast forward to now and we are best friends and deeply important people for each other. I'm so grateful to her for not throwing the baby out with the bathwater when I confessed, and leaving the ball in my court. Getting over those feelings was worth it ten times over, and what I thought was love for her last year is incomparable to the platonic love we have for each other now.
Jun 8, 2024
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My girl and I dated for a year, broke up and she moved across the country with another guy for two years. Didn’t talk at all in those two years. She moved back and our ”one time” hook up turned into a 6 year relationship. So idk I feel like it’s cool if y’all know y’all love each other enough. Just have to make sure it’s worth it, you know? I’m old though and I believe in all that mushy romantic shit so eh.
Mar 9, 2025
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leaves you susceptible to dating someone for too long because they play a role rather than it being about who they are. if you go in open to every situation, it will play out as its supposed to naturally (sometimes with a little nudge)
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literally every single series has been great so far except BOS/MIA & CLE/ORL. we really in for a treat
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it’s good for your body and skin and has magical healing properties when consumed at the right times. currently it’s helping me beat a hangover
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