it's impossible to take actionable advice from a Don't statement. Howeverrrr choosing to see it as a whole bunch of implied Do statements has worked for me. If we Do dance hard/wild/sexy on the dance floor, Do post pictures smiling WIDE with the homies, Do cook impressive new recipes, Do publicize our progress on our hobbies, Do host fun parties, I think people can sense when you're becoming cooler and sexier. And can smell the incoming competition within the other observers/want to act before them...
TLDR who wants to get with the person in the party trying desperately to make eye contact with everyone when they could get with the host?