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I hope i am not alone in witnessing this, i feel that August came and change is hitting people like a truck. Almost an immediate wave of transformation and I am witnessing this mainly in relationships? massive break ups and major relationship changes all happening at once but to different people. People that don’t know eachother, or friends of coworkers. Also! Comments like “all the baddies are single right now” appearing, it’s being talked about jokingly but not as a topic of discussion amongst people. I hope August can be kind to these people, and if you’re going through something similar - relationship break up and life changing events - know that you aren’t alone in experiencing this period of dramatic change and transformation. a period of growth and change for the better. It’s happening to a lot of people, this change will have meaning to you and re-visit the independent nature of the human experience, exploring life acknowledging independence. I believe it’s important to experience and be okay with alone time. it’s a skill to love yourself, by yourself and prioritise your human experience. live for you. Not through or alongside or with others all the time. I feel like everything is going to be okay.
Time will tell.
I love you! August be kind please.
EDIT: This came up on Pinterest tehehe.
Aug 13, 2024
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People change people grow apart and that’s ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence it’s already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless I’m reminded 25/8 and while I’ve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; it’s somehow even harder for me to realize when that it’s ok if people are growing apart from me. It’s inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes it’s just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and that’s ok.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i “change” friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but that’s besides the point LOL) but the truth is that I’ve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and you’re wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
Mar 13, 2025
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This time 4 years ago, I was reeling from the most embarrassingly heinous situationship that’s ever befallen anyone I know (lol this guy is perhaps a story for another time). Now I’m 2 years into living with the love of my life, thinking that I was too broken to ever get close to a human being again
Some of the (many) things that worked for me:
- Taking an extended period away from dating, far longer than I had thought. In a fucked up way, I think Covid saved my life since I functionally had no way to get back out there for 6+ months (I’m not counting those weird FaceTime dates). Even if you think you’re ready, it’s possible you could still benefit from time outside the cesspool just working on yourself and investing in friendships/hobbies/your career/learning new stuff/whatever.
- On a related note, therapy was very needed!
- Start a new, group hobby where you’ll see the same people each week. Not that you’ll forcibly end up dating someone you meet there, but an expanded circle often brings good into your life and it’s exciting to have something new in your life that isn’t tied to success on a dating app.
- Not to be that person since I always hated when people said this to me when I was single, but it always happens when you least expect it. All of the above contributes to a new you who isn’t yearning for it above all else. People are drawn to others who seem to be thriving without them and I promise you you’ll attract much higher quality people when you project this attitude (my own prospects were night and day since I was content in my own life and saw someone as additive not just looking for love/acceptance/contact from whoever could provide it).
Those are the things that came to me initially, but will keep noodling. Rooting for you ❤️
Apr 1, 2024
Since some big life changes that have left me feeling incredibly alone. I’ve had time to reflect on it and I wanted to share what has helped me so far..
1. loneliness, in its solitude, is an emotion, a way in which we feel. I’ve found it so difficult to stop thinking ‘I have no one and I am alone’. but try to replace it with ‘I am feeling lonely right now, how can I stop this?’ Everything is temporary, including this feeling.
2. Find autonomy with your time. When I became lonely I soon became depressed. A vicious cycle of feeling lonely but only refining yourself to your bed and room. You don’t need to do things with people to help this feeling. Just do the thing! find hobbies and activities that you enjoy first. It gives you more autonomy and confidence.
3. You probably don’t need that person that you think will ‘fix’ the problem. How you feel should not be dependent on anyone but yourself.
Any other tips? I still feel like shit. It’s just some realisations I’ve had.
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Jan 8, 2025
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If you played an instrument when younger, I 100% recommend owning it when you’re older.
I took Flute lessons all my school years and stopped after graduating.
Now I’m older, I‘m really grateful for them. Also, appreciate the instrument much more without the pressure to learn and progress.
Musical instruments are incredible hobbies, gorgeous, and it’s never too late to start learning !!
Nov 21, 2024
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Physical magazines and displaying them is a lost art !!
There are some beautiful magazine covers out there, they need to be appreciated and read.
Nov 18, 2024
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I love doing this! Outside seating at a cafe / restaurant / bar and just being.
Take a moment to sonder.
Watching others experience life and go about their day.
Coffee or wine in one hand, cigarette in the other - it’s amazing.
Oct 7, 2024