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itās genuinely very hard for me to be mad at another personāunless they are genuinely being unreasonable and deliberately hurtful towards me. but even so, they usually have their own reasons
everyoneās allowed to live differently and make different decisions based on how they grew up and grew into the person they are, and i think understanding how inherently different we all are from each other is actually very importantānot enough people grapple with that, we donāt actually sit down and comprehend that before reacting and objecting other people
i also think we need to be more comfortable with saying āi understand why you think this is the case, i just donāt agree with you, and thatās totally okā
everyoneās allowed to live differently and make different decisions based on how they grew up and grew into the person they are, and i think understanding how inherently different we all are from each other is actually very importantānot enough people grapple with that, we donāt actually sit down and comprehend that before reacting and objecting other people
i also think we need to be more comfortable with saying āi understand why you think this is the case, i just donāt agree with you, and thatās totally okā
Oct 5, 2024
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šnobody understands how freeing it is to truly be what others call āchill.ā that mindset is the most freeing of all, to not judge others upon first glance is a gift only few are naturally blessed with. of course, many learn how to be more accepting and carefree throughout life and experience, and that is to also be accepted. though what i have seen on other social media platforms is just exhausting. the key to being a truly open minded person is remembering itās their life, not yours. people can live it and express themselves however they like as long as it doesnāt harm themselves and especially others. this can go from blue hair and piercings to dyed platinum hair and neon clothing. i used to call myself open minded until i realized it was only on one side. i was very accepting of alternative fashion and lifestyle that i absolutely ripped on things that are associated with the ānorm.ā i came to the realization that even though i choose not to live that way, that does not make it okay to tell people what theyāre doing is wrong or stupid. they do it because it is THEIR life, i simply wouldnāt do it because thatās MY life and it does not align with me. this obviously goes further into topics of social issues and politics, though the first and most critical step to approaching deeper rooted misunderstandings regarding those topics would be the ability to properly argue. this should be basic knowledge, though tiktok and instagram (and media in general) is forgetting how to civilly debate. one must thoroughly hear out the other without insulting and/or interrupting, and then respond after the other has said their piece. active research of the points being discussed is crucial for all around understanding other perspectives. that advice goes for small arguments in comment sections to full on debates in professional settings. some may say this segment trailed off, though that only proves how far being open minded can get someone. we should not be closed off, calling things different to us ācringeā or dismissing others for their different ways of life.
TLDR/important takeaway: never judge anyone unless their way of life negatively affects themselves and/or others. when in disagreement, always put yourself in the otherās perspective and actively research.
TLDR/important takeaway: never judge anyone unless their way of life negatively affects themselves and/or others. when in disagreement, always put yourself in the otherās perspective and actively research.
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āSometimes it's very frustrating when I listen to people complain about someone and they're just not even trying to look at it from their point of view. It's true that in some cases the other person is just being stupid or mean, but there's something a bit insidious happening nowadays where people will just not even try to put themselves in another person's position. It's a little bit depressing how little you hear "maybe she's right" or "maybe I'm wrong"
Sep 18, 2024
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āI am able to see everything as multifaceted. I know there are more than two sides to the same coin, and I believe things shouldnāt be approached as they appear.
being able to recognize this has made me a more understanding person. Iām still a hater to my core, and I still make snap judgements about people cutting me off in traffic or being rude to me in the grocery store and the like, but as someone who works in customer service, it has helped me not take everything so personally. Someone snapping at me, or asking a lot of questions that may seem obvious isnāt necessarily a pock on their character. Someone may be having a bad day, or is really tired, or high, or just hasnāt been here and they are overwhelmed because everything is new and different. I am also able to avoid spiraling about my personal relationships because it really is not about me all the time. And even if/when it is about me, it most likely not malicious. A lot of people have anxieties they donāt recognize actively, but they still act on them. And that is okay. We are all people, we all fuck up, and we all keep living.
Mar 6, 2025
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āļøsure yes i can check your story and know what youāve been up to today but who the fuck cares. iām live texting you as i descend into drunkenness, sending you screenshots of weird emails, incorrectly correcting typos because weāre like š¤š¼ this
traditional social media are boring, all you need is a few close friends on letterboxd, pi.fyi, last.fm, plus i got your #, iām gonna text u
traditional social media are boring, all you need is a few close friends on letterboxd, pi.fyi, last.fm, plus i got your #, iām gonna text u
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š¬it basically means āiām here already, i might as well be at peace with itā
started truly believing in it a few years ago when i first moved to nashville. there are a lot of things i donāt like about my life, down to daily tasks like having to wait for a bus despite being an impatient person, up to not being proud of my own family dynamic, but i'm learning to make peace with itāthis is the one life iām gonna have, and some things i just canāt change, whether thatās for now or for a long while
started truly believing in it a few years ago when i first moved to nashville. there are a lot of things i donāt like about my life, down to daily tasks like having to wait for a bus despite being an impatient person, up to not being proud of my own family dynamic, but i'm learning to make peace with itāthis is the one life iām gonna have, and some things i just canāt change, whether thatās for now or for a long while