often I find that saying yes to something — like, in your case, "reading more," — starts by saying no to other stuff.
I have no idea what should be on your "don't do" list, but when I want to say yes to a new, good thing I often make a point of saying no to: compulsive phone usage, wasting time online, etc.
my approach to forming a new habit involves both parts: figuring out what I will do and getting clear on what I won't do.
Oct 18, 2024
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I started doing what i wanted, and if somebody asked me to do something i didn't want to do, like meet up for a coffee, i'd say no, and then spend the time doing something i wanted to do.
Apr 6, 2025
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don't get me wrong - saying no to things is a great practice for setting boundaries and it’s very empowering .. it’s also good to push yourself past those boundaries sometimes. say yes to things more and see how you feel about it after. maybe you’ll find yourself enjoying it a bit too much 🤭
say yes to the date. say yes to the job. say yes to that party invite. say yassss
Feb 11, 2024
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Save ”yes” for what you excites you, interests you, or is at the very least within your capacity. Not every “yes” needs to be enthusiastic but it should be authentic.
Some people have no trouble telling others “no” but it’s taken me a lot of practice. I’ve had to realize that my friends and family love me and value our relationship beyond any single request. Love isn’t transactional like this — or it shouldn’t be, at least.
Anyone you can’t say ”no” to is a walking red flag.
Nov 29, 2024
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this is worthy of celebration: the lack of video—autoplay video, noisy inane video, panicky video, algorithmic, dumb video, rabbit hole video, any video—on pi.fyi is a good thing
Oct 5, 2024
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this is going to hurt — A LOT — but it's getting to the point where there's no other option
Mar 11, 2025