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This is all based on conjecture and projection. I'll never be pregnant. Haven't been pregnant. Not at all qualified to comment on pregnancy.
But I do understand what it is like to be so consumed and swept up in something good that the normal social considerations lose their hold: like being in love or in the throes of a fulfilling new passion.
A woman just walked into my beloved third place coffee shop, her jeans fully unzipped and shirt rolled halfway up, showcasing and baring her enormous, bulging, definitely pregnant gleaming stomach.
It was both jarring and heart-warming.
Maybe she's feeling liberated. Or incredibly uncomfortable. Maybe she's feeling like she doesn't have a choice: needs to let things breathe. Maybe she's not thinking about it at allājust being so super real to herself and her moment that everything else has just faded into the background.
Anyway: thumbs up to being super real to yourself, however it comes.
Oct 24, 2024
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We had friends over the other day and my friend said sheās paying attention to how I mother because she thinks Iām doing a great job and wants to do the same with her future kids. Everyone agreed š„².
Weāre the only one of our friends with kids (3 y/o and almost 3 month old) and to be recognized in a role where the labor often goes unnoticed felt so good. I genuinely delight in my children and love being a mother, but it is 24/7 work. I never dreamt of being a parent but with my own healing and growth I found myself wanting to be. I spent a lot of years working on my own self regulation and studying child development (Iām a child therapist) and that has really been paying off in a way I wasnāt expecting at the time.
When someone gives birth, their brain matter changes to aid in caring for their baby. Iāve been in the thick of that for 3 years now and while I can and do think of other things, my entire being is very much entrenched in āmother,ā and it can be hard to navigate identity outside of it. so to be seen and honored for that felt really special.
May 29, 2024
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Iām not sure Iād really recommend this because itās more exhausting and permanently life-altering than almost any other thing you could imagine. But being a parent connects me to others in a way I had never experienced before having my own kid.
I love every child because I love my child. I believe every person is trying their best, is trying to be good, because I see that in him. I feel connected to the grief and suffering of other parents because I see how to love your child is necessarily to be on the knifeās edge of grief at all times. I have found parenting politically radicalizing because I cannot accept that my child deserves more than other children, that he gets to be safe and fed and surrounded by infinite possibility when most others are not.
Having a kid has not necessarily made me happier, but it has given me a deeper understanding of the human condition, and I am grateful for that.
Mar 16, 2024
deeply seen by this essay in pioneer works broadcast by kate shannon jenkins. recommended reading for mothers (duh) or anyone who knows a mother (lol)
iām 36, a single mom with two kidsā4 and 8ātwo different dads. iāve spent so long feeling ashamed and embarrassed by this but actually i think itās radical as f*ck and i love my lil squad š¤²š¼
May 10, 2025
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this is worthy of celebration:Ā the lack of videoāautoplay video, noisy inane video, panicky video, algorithmic, dumb video, rabbit hole video, any videoāon pi.fyi is a good thing
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this is going to hurt āĀ A LOT āĀ but it's getting to the point where there's no other option
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