Firstly, big warm virtual hug. Close your eyes and feel it š«
The book Iām recommending was such a comfort for me in a hard time, and I hope it is for you too.
I donāt want to move too far into Therapy speak but I have to make very clear to you, somebody telling you that you will never be loved is an abusive statement. That is like a curse being placed upon you. That seed is planted in your heart and everything gets filtered through it. And itās not TRUE! ITāS NOT TRUE!!! ITāS NOT TRUE!!! You need to deal with that. And you will. I believe in you.
Nov 4, 2024
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āRather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about taking a good look.ā - Pema Chƶdrƶn
Iāve just lived one of the hardest years of my life. There were many days that I cried or felt numb or found myself praying to an interventionist god I do not believe in. In short, things have sucked.
But there are also good days. Days with a lot of laughter with friends, or cuddles from my cats, or some new piece of art that heals me. Itās not all bad, just as it will never be all good.You have to make peace with this fact because there is no other choice. You donāt have to be happy about all of it, but make peace. Experience all that life has to offer and it will transform you.
āThings falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things donāt really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. Itās just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.ā
Dec 5, 2024
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Hereās what I mean:
Surround yourself with people that love you. Tell them you need the extra loving. Treat yourself as you would a friend. Mother yourself as you would a child. Eat nourishing food, get your body moving, get outside. Pick yourself flowers, treat yourself to a gift. You experienced a betrayal and I do think you may need support working through that, right now it sounds like you need a lot of tenderness. When you find your mind thinking about it, say ānot today!!!ā They donāt deserve any more of your time or energy. DELETE THOSE MESSAGES!
Weāre not going to be for everyone, and you were treated very unfairly. Thatās a reflection of them, not you. Kind people donāt act like that, even when they donāt like someone.
Sometimes in life we donāt have the support system we need, and thatās the time to learn how to be that for yourself. No matter what happens in life, YOUāVE got you, and thatās an empowering thing.
Jul 9, 2024
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honestly it really made me understand my autonomy and the larger role i play in shaping my own life. iām in complete control of the life i want to build and nurture.
life is hardālike, really fucking hardāand thereās no rulebook. weāre all just figuring it out, and thereās no one ārightā way to do it. for me, itās been helpful to focus on my values and what truly makes me happy and/or brings me joy. when do i feel most at peace? what makes me feel loved? how do i stay grounded? so when life inevitably gets toughāand it always doesāi have tools to navigate it and avoid feeling soā¦shitty.
there was a limit to how much i could lean on my support system. donāt get me wrongā my friends, family, and community were so critical for me during this time, but i had to be honest with myself: i needed professional help š
. now, iām here, feeling like i can actually liveāand enjoy life.
ditto to what everyone has said above. sending virtual hugs š©·š«š©·
Dec 4, 2024
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For some reason this brings me into my parasympathetic nervous system
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Humans have always danced. It is part of who we are, yet we have been conditioned to be self conscious, to think that we do not move our bodies good enough. Dancing is beyond judgement. Dancing is not a skill, it is our soul moving through our bodies, expressed in movement. Dancing is healing. Dancing is bodily autonomy. Dancing is FUN! Any feeling you are feeling can be moved through with dance yet even alone, you fear looking foolish. Kill the judge in your mind, shut the fuck up, and MOVE š
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OH BROTHER THIS GUY actually needs a lot of empathy and understanding
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