my ex, who i dated for a year and thought was the loml, the person i was going to move in with and get married to and adopt a lot of cats with told me that they had "mentally" moved on 6 months before they broke up with me. and my first thought what was our relationship? what were we doing? how did i not realise or see the signs and i felt really stupid. tbh i'm still processing this. but, i think it was on them to lmk and not for me to figure out. also i saw this pin on pinterest that said something like "what do i do when i'm always the one who loves more?" "congratulate yourself." you can't measure love but i think you deserve to be w/ someone who appreciates and values you just as much as you appreciate and value them. someone who puts in as much effort as you are putting in. the most important thing is to never question your worth. ik this must be so hard to deal with but you will get through this <3
Jan 11, 2025
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others have said the same but trulyyyy I had no sense of self for years because I based my worth on my partner ... so when we ended I felt like I had nothing.. i started therapy asap and truly worked on myself. meditation helped too! β» I had to befriend myself and get back to who I was because ultimately all we have is ourselves and to fall in love with yourself is so important! we have so much time to find another love, until then be your own <3 I know its easier said than done but there will be a time where you wont think of them at all and it wont matter like it does now. you'll receive the love you truly deserve in time... until then remember your worth!!!π€ππ«Άπ»
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whether it's someone you met under through dating, or a platonic friend who doesn't reciprocate your feelings beyond that, there's something about that person that drew you to them and attracted your attention and affection that resulted in you being infatuated regardless of whether or not they reciprocate
the important things is identifying that something and seeking it out in other relationships; what it that they made you feel? seen? secure? appreciated? was it physical beauty or creativity or sense of humor? no qualities are unique to any individual, a lot of qualities are actually social in nature and cultivated over the course of a relationship. it's easy to get over your feelings not being returned when you realize that there isn't a scarcity around the kinds of relationships you can have and the people you can have them with, and that your search continues rather than it having ended in "failure"
above all else, orienting towards gratitude that you got to have that experience and what you learned about yourself through the process instead of the negative feelings associated with rejection, because rejection largely stings because of perceived scarcity. the thing that's often unsaid but felt is "i don't want to find someone else; it would be so much easier if this person just liked me back" or some permutation. but as long as you live and breathe there are others out there for you to love and be loved by, and maybe some of them will be romantic partners but none of them have to be "the one who got away" unless you put them on that pedestal and only relate to them and yourself from that vantage point
Feb 1, 2025
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idk if this will be helpful to you, but if you want to move on from someone who is not giving you what you need, you kinda have to decide that you want more for yourself than what this person is willing to give you. if they're able to give you more doesn't matter btw. someone can be completely in love with you and it kinda doesn't matter if you don't feel it. what i'm saying is even if they're just super busy or too shy to initiate seeing each other in person, the notion of them being interested and struggling to show it is less important than how their actions actually come across to you. you don't want to have to figure out how they feel anyway, do you?
Apr 27, 2025
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adrienne is the vocalist of big thief and they have similar music. i love changes by big thief <3
Jan 15, 2025
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here are some things you can do that might help
-clean ur space
-journal (brain dump)
-meditate
-move ur body
-take an everything hot shower
-change into comfy clothes
-eat a warm, comforting, nutritious meal
when i notice i'm in a rut i like to do these things to feel better and then slowly start getting into my routine again
Jan 12, 2025
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this is the song that plays during the tunnel scene in perks of being a wallflower and i think about it more than I should.
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