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you havent met everyone who will love you yet

i want you to know that youre not alone - i feel the exact same way - i don’t know the solution but i can tell you confidently it’s not something that’s wrong with you so many people feel this way but no one says anything so everyone just feels more alone - one saying that has comforted me is “you haven’t met everyone else who will love you yet”

@danielalala

Nov 4, 2024

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HEALING YOURSELF

By putting hopes + healing into someone else's hands, you also give them all that power over you. When they stop x, y, z, your maintenance is dropped. Your wound is never healed without them. (Re: "lost the person who I thought would heal me from all previous wounds.") Best news is that you haven't lost that person. It's all u bb A lil self journey to gentle self care could go a long way, with maybe professionals if needed. Next relationship will be healing bc you'll have all that inner stability. Hope this helps 🩷🪻🩵

@1strawberrysecret

Apr 12, 2025

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Freeing myself from loneliness

Since some big life changes that have left me feeling incredibly alone. I’ve had time to reflect on it and I wanted to share what has helped me so far.. 1. loneliness, in its solitude, is an emotion, a way in which we feel. I’ve found it so difficult to stop thinking ‘I have no one and I am alone’. but try to replace it with ‘I am feeling lonely right now, how can I stop this?’ Everything is temporary, including this feeling. 2. Find autonomy with your time. When I became lonely I soon became depressed. A vicious cycle of feeling lonely but only refining yourself to your bed and room. You don’t need to do things with people to help this feeling. Just do the thing! find hobbies and activities that you enjoy first. It gives you more autonomy and confidence. 3. You probably don’t need that person that you think will ‘fix’ the problem. How you feel should not be dependent on anyone but yourself. Any other tips? I still feel like shit. It’s just some realisations I’ve had. *pic because nice*

@youfreeontuesday

Jan 8, 2025

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BEING "NORMAL" IS KILLING YOU

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NORMAL. Stop trying to be something that you are not, stop trying to be copy-paste <insert substyle that you do not even really like you just don't know who you are if you are not following a trend> for the longest time, I had no identity, I didn't know who I was outside of micro-trends and what was popping off on the internet. I wanted so badly to be normal that everything I tried was slowly but surely killing my spirit. People are clay. We are covered in little fingerprints, little specks of dust, and pieces of lint. No one person is without these things. Normalcy implies that there is a standard, uniform way to mold clay. You can never be normal, and that is so beautiful that's what makes life so worth it. I tried so long to figure out the "normal" way to live life that I missed out on so many things my teenage years are over, and they flew past me. I spent so long trying to be a normal teenager that I forgot that the most important part of this age is trying to figure out who you are by yourself through your actions, through your memories, and through the people around you, not by following what is normal. I will never be normal, and I am so grateful, I will always be ME. My spirit will be unique. My mind will remain creative. I will never be normal, and I don't want to be.

@Doll

Feb 22, 2025

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Use the 20 minute rule

I made this up in like 10 minutes but this has been my thought process as an "ex" introvert Should I Stay or Leave? A Decision Flowchart for Introverts Am I feeling unsafe? Yes → Is it because I’m anxious, or is it a genuinely unsafe situation?If anxious/new: Wait 20 minutes to see if I acclimate.If still feeling unsafe after 20 minutes → Leave. No → Move to the next step. Am I feeling bored? Yes → Can I find something interesting here?Yes → Engage with that.No → Suggest a more interesting activity.Did they change the activity?Yes → Stay and reassess.No → Stay for 20 more minutes.Still bored? → Leave. No → Move to the next step. Am I feeling uncomfortable? Yes → Is it a normal level of discomfort?Yes → Give it 20 minutes and reassess.No → Leave. No → Stay. A reminder: Many people say, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable," but society often acts like being an introvert is a flaw, as if no normal person could be one. While it's good to challenge yourself, forcing yourself into situations that make you feel awful or completely uninterested isn’t good for your mental health. Uncomfortable situations can help you grow, but if something makes you truly miserable, you should remove yourself. The best way to step out of your comfort zone is to understand why you’re introverted. I grew up introverted because I wasn’t allowed to do much, but pushing myself outside my comfort zone helped me explore my personality. However, if you’re naturally introverted, there’s no reason to force change. Instead, I recommend using a system to decide when to stay in a situation and when to leave—like a simple flowchart to guide your choices.

@Doll

Feb 22, 2025

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GETTING A NEW DIGITAL CAMERA

@Doll

Feb 22, 2025