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your life is yours

the best way to get over FOMO for me was to remember that i'm living my life for me and that the best way to do that is to take care of myself even when that's not the most fun option. in college, i would always struggle to stay home when my friends were going out even if i was really tired or had a lot of work to do. i would go to the party that was never as good as i told myself it would be and then be exhausted the next day or behind. and that lack of sleep and procrastination would just compound over time. there was always going to be another party, but not another due date. there was always going to be another party, but not another day to sleep in. parties and fun events will always be there. your health and mental wellbeing is not something that should be gambled on something that will never go away. right now you have covid and it must suck because it's not that you don't want to go but that you literally can't. but right now, you're not only doing what's best for you but also for others. you are replenishing your energy, you are recovering, and that is extremely important! i think sometimes we take our health for granted but it is truly a privilege! you aren't missing out for no reason. you're actively taking care of yourself and your community. speaking of other people, you have no idea if you would've even enjoyed the event. there have been so many times that i have been with people at parties that were lame, boring, or just unpleasantly crowded. and those same people i was with, would post about it like it was the best night of their lives. if i had only seen it on social media, i would've thought i missed out on so much. but i was there! and it sucked! people only post their highlights and they are incredibly unreliable. you know only know what you know. you can only build upon certainties, so there's no point in guessing or engaging in hypotheticals because the possibility of you having fun vs not having fun is equally likely and a pure unknown! it's a waste of time to wonder. instead, focus on what you do know and make the best of the things you can do that you know you enjoy! whether it's catching up on movies, books, games, long phone calls with long distance friends, trying new recipes, making a really specific spotify playlist, adding a million pins to your pinterest boards, playing games, binging a tv show, redecorating your room, etc etc. so TLDR: - your health and mental well being over everything - there's always going to be another party - social media is inaccurate - you know what you enjoy, so focus your time on doing the things you know for sure will make you happy. *bonus suggestion*: i've been playing a LOT of sudoku and i think it's a good way to entertain yourself that doesn't require a lot of physical expenditure and isn't just mindlessly scrolling. i hope you feel better soon!! <333

@katialisa

Jul 18, 2024

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A few things that have helped me

- Distancing myself from some areas of the internet - Reading especially non-fiction - Getting to know people in your community - Doing things for people in your community - Cooking - Exploring online resources like Jstor and Internet Archive - Spending time in nature / parks

@av100

Jun 19, 2024

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STOP CONSUMING

have some time to get your inner world back, maybe intentionally revisit one or two things that mean a lot to who you are make something small, like sewing some patches onto clothing or drawing something easy

@FFH

Apr 13, 2025

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GETTING RID OF THE STAR COUNT

@TYLER please let us be free from the commodification of the data generated from our social, whimsical, and sincere, free expression the sincerity of this app is because it’s different from those other apps :/ why do we need metrics on how we socialize? 🫩🫩🫩🫩😮‍💨😮‍💨 i’m curious as much as i am sad about the decision to make the star count visible. is that what its proper name is? or are we calling it likes? 👀

@chronicwebuser

3d ago

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not yearning

i've been seeing piffies posting about, and I myself, have experienced The Yearn. i've sat with my feelings about relationships through many seasons. i was with someone for 10 yrs, we got engaged, i broke it off. although he was an incredible person, he was not my soulmate. i've had a few relationships since then and have felt The Yearn. after being dumped this weekend i have some thoughts to ask myself when looking at dating / The Yearn. 1 -- are you seeking connection or attention? 2 -- is your relationship an excuse for you to not work on other parts of yourself you know you need to take time to face? 3 -- how are your friendships? do you have people behind you that will see you through any season? keep those people around FOREVER. maybe marry them instead.... lmao 😳 4 -- have you dated yourself? was it full of joy and love? 5 -- can you (within reason - we can NOT exist and heal with out each other) meet your own needs and care for yourself? 6 -- how honest are you with yourself? you'll only ever be able to be that honest with other people, no matter the relationship. 7 -- are you just trying to follow a story arc that you *think* you *should* follow? see link: relationship escalator my goals right now are to build up a family of people that will be with me forever! it's not a ton of people but it's enough! if i find a "soulmate" or "love of my life" along the way then like... nice 😃👍 but like that's not my GOAL. if you are young and reading this, i wish i knew in my 20s (am 31) what i am writing in this post. i g2g tho ~ ily, be well!

@chronicwebuser

Mar 17, 2025

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WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU WHO THEY ARE THE FIRST TIME, BELIEVE THEM

this might be pessimistic, but i think i’ve finally learned this lesson… if you can recognize icky behavior in other people and leave at that first sign, you will have significantly more stable, meaningful relationships of any kind. do not rationalize their poor behavior and give them the benefit of the doubt. move on. i wish i started doing this sooner.

@chronicwebuser

5d ago