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The performance of boyhood

i really also think about how much boys are taught ways to perform masculinity & how it is legitimised through tangible things like building a career etc but with women i find that from a young age our identity, behaviours, & thoughts are always spoken about in relation to other people/things — gender roles within the family, how we’re perceived by men, our friendships with other women, our relationships with material things etc etc — and this shows up in the labels that women are often given too! so and so is someone’s daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother etc etc. i envy the freedom of boyhood so much, the freedom to just be (this is not to discount the toxicity of traditional masculinity, i just think that boys are still afforded more “play” and therefore have more opportunities to develop their sense of self). maybe i am also biased because of how i’ve grown up & whatnot but i never really understood what it meant to quote unquote be a woman or perform femininity. i only saw this modelled within my nurturing friendships with women as i’ve gotten older but when i was younger, in church it was always “ok well don’t do this or that because x y z will happen to men if you do” or within my extended family it was often “are you seeing anyone? when are you having kids”. damn what happened to asking about how i’m doing or what my dreams are!!! long rant sorry !! but that’s my long winded way of saying “i feel you” haha

@addycyl

Jun 28, 2024

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I think i had an unusually adventurous and fairly gender neutral upbringing

and I feel lucky about that; it made me who I am today! But as an adult woman I can definitely relate and I imagine what it would be like to feel that sense of freedom from being perceived as a woman and the societal expectations that come with that. Sylvia Plath said it best in her journals: “Yes, my consuming desire is to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, barroom regulars—to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording—all this is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always supposedly in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yes, God, I want to talk to everybody as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night...” I do think though that it’s fruitless to fixate on these things, imagining the grass to be greener on the other side and essentially wishing you could have grown up and lived as another person, because 1 it’s not possible 2 the life you imagine has so many downsides to it too that you can’t even imagine not having experienced itself and 3 if you were a different person then the You you are now wouldn’t exist, and that would be a shame! I also think men are having a tough time now and many of them are probably just as neurotic, inhibited, and fearful as women. Obviously people are free to reject these notions and live life as whoever they want, and I respect and appreciate those who choose to do this, but I’m not interested in doing that for myself. Instead, I challenge the boundaries of what it means to be a woman in the ways that I can, which feels like the right choice for me!

@taterhole

Jun 28, 2024

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pivoting from ”girlhood” to ”womanhood”

in my very unimportant opinion, too many adult women are obsessed with “girlhood” and embracing a “girly” lifestyle and I can’t for the life of me understand why they aren’t embracing “womanhood.” are adult women simply afraid of what leaving girlhood behind would mean for them? is it the prospect of the added responsibility that comes from being an adult that keeps them attached to their younger years? or is it just the aesthetics of girlhood that keep them in that mindset? yes when we were girls the world was so open, so new, so mysterious. why should that have to change entirely with age? some women may have more lived experiences and aren’t as easily impressed or mystified by things as they were during girlhood, but i think thats all relative to perspective. there are still sensations, mysteries and first times after the age of 25 and even 45 and so on. shouldn’t we experience it through the lens of women who have already passed the trials of girlhood? maybe this is just another millennial problem.

@gawby

Feb 4, 2025

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Things that rock this summer

⭕️Impromptu dinner dates with friends ⭕️Wearing clothes that show different areas of your body because after all, it’s just a body. Why dont your arms or the skin on your back deserve to feel the summer breeze? ⭕️revisiting records you forgot about and making them your theme songs for a week straight (for me right now it’s Good Luck by Bladee) ⭕️ telling people no but opportunities yes ⭕️ strutting -walk bitch- ⭕️ loving and not worrying about whether people will understand it. Love is seeping from your pores don’t worry about where it’s going. Let it glisten like dew

@2youngtorock

Jun 28, 2024

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Nothing better than when your phone is dying, and i mean that wholeheartedly

I’m at 3% and I’m trying to see if I have enough juice to post this and maybe a quick scroll on twitter before it gives out. what do you do when your phone dies? Personally I like to give a big sigh of relief, leave it uncharged And just look around wherever I’m at. I obviously don’t have anything else to do Might as well clean my restroom Or sort through the mail that’s been sitting next to the Garfield piggy bank -Ty crumbmode for it- that I’ve been meaning to empty idk apparently anything is possible once my phone dies 1% !!!!!!!

@2youngtorock

Jun 28, 2024

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You ever recommend a song to a friend

And the next time you link up with them they’re playing it? Great feeling I think Amazing feeling actually

@2youngtorock

Jul 8, 2024