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Self advocating

Sometimes all you have to do is ask.

@eliot

Sep 18, 2024

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LEARN THESE LESSONS AGAIN AND AGAIN

I am quick to say yes to someone who needs help without actually assessing if it will add unnecessary strain on me. Literally did it today, but it was a one time thing. Ongoing is where I really run into issues. I can’t really afford to do that as a working mom of two young kids- no one benefits if I’m stretched too thin. Even if I think I’m being so clear, people will misunderstand me. We project things onto each other all the time. I can’t assume the other person is taking the time to self reflect. There are people that will dislike or even hate me even if I’ve done nothing wrong. There are people who will oppose me just to be opposition. I can’t take it personally (I still do 🙃) Recognizing when I need help and asking for it. Just because I can do it myself, doesn’t always mean I should.

@mossyelfie

May 30, 2025

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Telling people no

if you grew up being a people pleaser like me, it can be so damn hard to set boundaries. but it was so great when I finally realized I simply didn’t have to say yes to everything/everyone. it was wild. blew my mind. I highly recommend.

@rizkillla

Aug 8, 2024

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Ins and outs - 2025

I encourage you to rip into me if you disagree because shying away from disagreement is what??👂 OUT! IN • Reading books • Folk-rock and folk-country • Doing stuff on the computer and not your phone like god intended (social media, online shopping, etc.) • Clothes-wise: colored tights, mini skirts, scarves • Being late to work • Talking to strangers, in the same vein: making new friends • Writing • Taking the bus and the train • Saying what you need to say and doing so succinctly • Unionizing your workplace OUT • Boring convos with coworkers • Wearing clothes you don’t really like • Minnesota nice (see also: being nice is not always the same as being kind) • VAPING OHHH MY GOD. WRAP IT UP!!! • Caring about makeup, unless you’re a drag queen or a goth. Like you get 15 minutes max • Shying away from disagreement • Fast casual chain restaurants - go eat local and sit down for a while • Paw Patrol (copaganda) • Ass kissing • Being under 25

@erikrikrika

Dec 23, 2024

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the Left hand of darkness - Ursula K. le guin

I mean. Wow. I wish I could formulate coherent literary analysis but I think I just need to sit with this for a month. Humanity, gender, politics, fear, love. The heart of culturally long-lasting, impactful sci fi is when the sci is merely a background to the fi, ya know? Tried to pick a quote but can’t right now. If you hear shrill screaming in the distance just know it’s me wailing over this book Illustration by David Lupton

@erikrikrika

Jan 30, 2025

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WAITING FOR THE RIGHT MATCH TO COME ALONG

…instead of trying and failing to date people you’re just not that into (p.s. I might be gayer than I thought)

@erikrikrika

Apr 13, 2025