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Dating apps </3

im gonna ramble for a second. i have a real distaste for dating apps, but despite this i still don’t delete them. a small part of me thinks it’ll work out in my favor one day. but shoutout the loyal storylikers i’ve gained from failed hinge talking stages hahaha… i have a very loose definition of ‘type’ in terms of physicality, and even then someone physicality is never a deal breaker. usually. i don’t think i am meant to meet people this way. and i think a lot of people also say this so i am not original in this feeling, but i think i need to fall in love with a friend, someone that there is already a baseline compatibility with, a mutual appreciation already there. all the fanfic i read as a kid was a friends to lovers trope! and i think it works for a reason. that being said its scary to become friends with someone and then think your feelings are further than platonic, because now its hard to decipher between what could be deliberately flirty or just like. your standard hang ykno? i still have never successfully deciphered this so i don’t wanna stand on my soapbox and act like i have any real expertise. just thinking out loud. i’ve been kinda lonely recently and everyone around me has been getting into relationships, this venus retrograde is no joke haha. and the added nuance to the lesbian dating experience, ive been feeling more isolated than usual. sorry this one’s a bummer a little!!! maybe i should stick to album / song reviews

@shoegazer55

Mar 12, 2025

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Dating apps are hell

I've Found there’s something so sad about meeting people with the explicit expectation of romance. i feel like I’ve lost the chance to be friends with some really cool people simply because we met on dating apps and tried and failed to date. Good People are everywhere, especially in cities, no need to force the hand of fate.

@sofe

Apr 12, 2024

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Dating apps are making me Feel Hopeless

Wouldn’t say I’m desperate, but I’m actively interested in a relationship, trying to move on from a past too complicated and dark to describe on here, but I feel that having that bond with someone and making endlessly fun memories would be a huge benefit, as well as sharing a part of yourself with someone who’s really special and deserving of it. I know I’m not that bad-looking of a guy, but I haven’t really had much luck on the apps, tried to curtail my profile to be more appearing, whole nine yards. It’s getting to be a bummer. Should I ditch the app and just let fate take its course?

@Greenelysium

Feb 16, 2025

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Asking for help

for some reason I have gone most of my life acting like I’m the only person on earth who’s not allowed to ask for help… and also feeling evil whenever I ask someone to do/not do something…. and lately I’m realizing that actually it’s okay if I ask. Most people are cool and will say “yes no problem”

@erikrikrika

Mar 24, 2025

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Ins and outs - 2025

I encourage you to rip into me if you disagree because shying away from disagreement is what??👂 OUT! IN • Reading books • Folk-rock and folk-country • Doing stuff on the computer and not your phone like god intended (social media, online shopping, etc.) • Clothes-wise: colored tights, mini skirts, scarves • Being late to work • Talking to strangers, in the same vein: making new friends • Writing • Taking the bus and the train • Saying what you need to say and doing so succinctly • Unionizing your workplace OUT • Boring convos with coworkers • Wearing clothes you don’t really like • Minnesota nice (see also: being nice is not always the same as being kind) • VAPING OHHH MY GOD. WRAP IT UP!!! • Caring about makeup, unless you’re a drag queen or a goth. Like you get 15 minutes max • Shying away from disagreement • Fast casual chain restaurants - go eat local and sit down for a while • Paw Patrol (copaganda) • Ass kissing • Being under 25

@erikrikrika

Dec 23, 2024

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the Left hand of darkness - Ursula K. le guin

I mean. Wow. I wish I could formulate coherent literary analysis but I think I just need to sit with this for a month. Humanity, gender, politics, fear, love. The heart of culturally long-lasting, impactful sci fi is when the sci is merely a background to the fi, ya know? Tried to pick a quote but can’t right now. If you hear shrill screaming in the distance just know it’s me wailing over this book Illustration by David Lupton

@erikrikrika

Jan 30, 2025