I am quick to say yes to someone who needs help without actually assessing if it will add unnecessary strain on me. Literally did it today, but it was a one time thing. Ongoing is where I really run into issues. I canât really afford to do that as a working mom of two young kids- no one benefits if Iâm stretched too thin.
Even if I think Iâm being so clear, people will misunderstand me. We project things onto each other all the time. I canât assume the other person is taking the time to self reflect. There are people that will dislike or even hate me even if Iâve done nothing wrong. There are people who will oppose me just to be opposition. I canât take it personally (I still do đ)
Recognizing when I need help and asking for it. Just because I can do it myself, doesnât always mean I should.
May 30, 2025
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Save âyesâ for what you excites you, interests you, or is at the very least within your capacity. Not every âyesâ needs to be enthusiastic but it should be authentic.
Some people have no trouble telling others ânoâ but itâs taken me a lot of practice. Iâve had to realize that my friends and family love me and value our relationship beyond any single request. Love isnât transactional like this â or it shouldnât be, at least.
Anyone you canât say ânoâ to is a walking red flag.
Nov 29, 2024
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for some reason I have gone most of my life acting like Iâm the only person on earth whoâs not allowed to ask for help⊠and also feeling evil whenever I ask someone to do/not do somethingâŠ. and lately Iâm realizing that actually itâs okay if I ask. Most people are cool and will say âyes no problemâ
Mar 24, 2025
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Itâs a strategy, and it starts with wanting to learn how to say no. The second step is to ask yourself a few questions, like: What am I sacrificing by saying yes? Am I saying yes out of guilt or obligation? What would happen if I said no?
You sit with those questions for a bit, and eventually, youâll unconsciously start using them as an automatic first response. To build that habit, you really need to reflect on yourself whenever youâre asked to hang out or do something.
But you canât question your answer afterward, because that will definitely lead you to think, âOkay, Iâm just gonna go.â Your first thought is important hereâlisten to yourself.
This is what I can say would work for someone, if I had to summarize my therapy visits, lol.
For me, to protect my peace, what worked was going to therapy. I learned things I never thought I could. At the beginning, itâs hard, but youâll see how you canât back down once you tell yourself that this is the only way.
Jan 29, 2025
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In Tarot, The Fool is the first card in the Major Arcana, which represents the life cycle. These cycles we are continuously going through in our lives, not just once. The final card of the Major Arcana is The World (which I have tattooed very large on my thigh), which signifies the completion of a cycle and natural ascension into the next. We are then thrust back into the Fool, with a bit more wisdom.
The Fool as an archetype is one of joy, curiosity, spontaneity, and trust. The Fool is pure of heart, knowing that the Universe has got their back. This innate trust allows The Fool to be playful, to take risks, and truly believe everything will work out. The more we go through life and experience loss, grief, heartache, trauma, the harder it becomes to embrace this energy. Iâve found that as healing goes on, just as itâs shown in tarot, we return to this natural state of being. We start off as The Fool when we are wee little babies, and if we are lucky can return there a few cycles at a time, with more wisdom gained each time. Â
The goal of The Fool is to have positive experiences, maybe for fun, maybe to grow. There is an acceptance with The Fool, a kind of âthis is what is, how can I make this work well for me?â Everything works out for The Fool because they donât know it canât. Anything we go through in life, we can use to grow. I personally believe we all could benefit embracing the archetypal energy of The Fool a bit more. The Fool doesnât stop to worry what other people will think! The Fool does not fret about what ifâs! The Fool is in the moment!
Jun 1, 2025
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Humans have always danced. It is part of who we are, yet we have been conditioned to be self conscious, to think that we do not move our bodies good enough. Dancing is beyond judgement. Dancing is not a skill, it is our soul moving through our bodies, expressed in movement. Dancing is healing. Dancing is bodily autonomy. Dancing is FUN! Any feeling you are feeling can be moved through with dance yet even alone, you fear looking foolish. Kill the judge in your mind, shut the fuck up, and MOVE đ
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