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tbh making posts like these is just gonna make it worse! its indulging in your subconscious desire to somehow be in thought-contact with him, to still center him somehow, to still make him relevant, to still feel affected by him. cut it out completely! you've already gone through the journaling phase and the debrief phase with your friends (and the posting about it on forums phase :p!) so then its time to do boy removal. stop talking about him, stop stalking his page, stop thinking about him and more importantly- you in relation to him. instead of 'what can i do with my time to get me to stop thinking about boy x', maybe switch it to i simply just: i need some fun little hobbies to make my time feel better. you were always real and complete...so continue always being real and complete... and maybe also pursue some new dick if that is your thing.
Mar 31, 2025
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♥️i went through a horrifically bad, messy, painful breakup late 2022/early last year and i still think about it often, but what helped me the most was
1. blocking them and COMMITTING to not checking their social medias (including stuff like Spotify). For me I focused most on the awful sinking feeling I'd get when I check, and I have slowly over the past year been able to ween off of checking it
2. truly and genuinely spend as much time with your friends or occupied as possible. when you're not with your friends, spend your time doing a hobby you love - especially a hobby that can cause some sort of material change, whatever that is
it also helps to get a haircut or make some dramatic change to your appearance/surroundings. anything fresh and new!!!!!!!!!
also do not expect to feel better immediately, or even with weeks, months, a year....it takes a very long time to get over relationship trauma and you shouldn't beat yourself up for not being over it!!
Feb 14, 2024
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⭐short-term, i think you need to focus on getting through this “hang-out” (whether that be “pre-gaming” beforehand or simply distracting yourself) then evaluating what you even want with this guy (friendship or dating, etc.). next, stop yourself the next time you find yourself spontaneously making plans or joining in on them. if you have a habit of canceling/flaking on people, then it’s probably a good idea to stop going out with other people for a little while.
Apr 22, 2025
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❤️sometimes you gotta remind yourself why you broke up — even if they broke up with you or it wasn’t mutual etc etc, theres always good reasons even if it’s just “they dumped me” like okay yes and do you want to be with someone who would dump you no (even if maybe it doesn’t feel like that rn). Reminding yourself of the things that make you incompatible helps you 1) process and move forward 2) know what to look for in your next relationship eventually! What were the needs that you always sort of wished they’d met? Interests you wish they’d shared? at some point it will be good to consider all of the good things that were there so you can look for those in the Future but now isn’t that time …
Also: -Read a long and easy book literally give your brain a break from your thoughts (this always helps me reset) -spend time with your friends and reconnect with old ones or people you just sort of lost track of because you were in a relationship and didn’t have the social time. Build up other sources of love!
Also: -Read a long and easy book literally give your brain a break from your thoughts (this always helps me reset) -spend time with your friends and reconnect with old ones or people you just sort of lost track of because you were in a relationship and didn’t have the social time. Build up other sources of love!
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small scale website where u share one song per day.... ur feed is just everyone on the app instead of a curated following list which i think is actually quite awesome and forces you to make sisters out of peers
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May 29, 2025
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😃1- chili powder but large bag from the indian store
2- turkey hill double dunker ice cream
3- lysol wipes
4- cherry tomatoes
5- sugar
6- white rice
7- cilantro
8- chicken thighs (fuck breasts lets get fatty and rich #pleasure)
9- ground italian sausage pref. hot
9- mouthwash
10- wai wai noodles, veg or sichuan flavor
11- spinach or maybe another green but spinach would be good (i already have sliced cabbage mix from tjs at home)
12- dried thyme
13- frozen peas
14- frozen veg mix like carrots, cauli, brocc
15- green grapes
16- deli meat i want salami bad
17- anchovy stuffed olives LOL
18- cabot sliced pepperjack cheese
19- clementines
Apr 3, 2025