tbh making posts like these is just gonna make it worse! its indulging in your subconscious desire to somehow be in thought-contact with him, to still center him somehow, to still make him relevant, to still feel affected by him. cut it out completely! you've already gone through the journaling phase and the debrief phase with your friends (and the posting about it on forums phase :p!) so then its time to do boy removal. stop talking about him, stop stalking his page, stop thinking about him and more importantly- you in relation to him. instead of 'what can i do with my time to get me to stop thinking about boy x', maybe switch it to i simply just: i need some fun little hobbies to make my time feel better. you were always real and complete...so continue always being real and complete... and maybe also pursue some new dick if that is your thing.
Mar 31, 2025
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i went through a horrifically bad, messy, painful breakup late 2022/early last year and i still think about it often, but what helped me the most was
1. blocking them and COMMITTING to not checking their social medias (including stuff like Spotify). For me I focused most on the awful sinking feeling I'd get when I check, and I have slowly over the past year been able to ween off of checking it
2. truly and genuinely spend as much time with your friends or occupied as possible. when you're not with your friends, spend your time doing a hobby you love - especially a hobby that can cause some sort of material change, whatever that is
it also helps to get a haircut or make some dramatic change to your appearance/surroundings. anything fresh and new!!!!!!!!!
also do not expect to feel better immediately, or even with weeks, months, a year....it takes a very long time to get over relationship trauma and you shouldn't beat yourself up for not being over it!!
Feb 14, 2024
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short-term, i think you need to focus on getting through this “hang-out” (whether that be “pre-gaming” beforehand or simply distracting yourself) then evaluating what you even want with this guy (friendship or dating, etc.). next, stop yourself the next time you find yourself spontaneously making plans or joining in on them. if you have a habit of canceling/flaking on people, then it’s probably a good idea to stop going out with other people for a little while.
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i’ve spent most of my life searching for romantic love and thinking something was wrong with me because i never got it. i prayed even though i’m not religious, i had a box filled with manifestations of the “perfect” guy under my pillow, i tried to go after guys i knew were meh because i thought u could make the love blossom, i did honey jar spells, i changed the way i looked, the way i spoke, my interests, i did EVERYTHING. this all resulted in a slew of horrendous situationships that tore down my self-esteem. after these, i definitely worked on myself and became much more confident and sure of myself, but still thought that a relationship would be the thing to make me truly happy. at 20, i had my first real boyfriend and he was “perfect”, or at least everything i thought i had ever wanted. he was attractive, tried to pay for everything, planned the most thoughtful dates, went out of his way to see me, was incredibly intelligent, kind, loyal, hardworking, took care of me when i was sick, and even respected the fact that i’m entirely celibate (like what 20 y/o guy is ok w that??). i ended up breaking up with him after a few months because i realized that a relationship was not what i actually wanted or needed, it was just what i thought about 24/7. not saying this is you, but the steps i took after our breakup might help with your situation. diversify and expand your sources of happiness/love as no one source will make you feel truly fulfilled. i started by doing 4 things: something that expanded my mind, something that earned me money, something that fulfilled me creatively, and something that fed me spiritually. for me this was college classes, a job at a restaurant, painting, hanging out with the people that i love more often, and joining a bunch of clubs at my school. i think our society places so much emphasis on romantic love, but other types, especially the love i receive from my friends has been the most unconditional and satiating. lastly, (again not saying this is you, it’s just a common reality) expecting one person to satisfy all of your need for love is not only dangerous for you (if they leave, you’ll be crushed) but also unfair to them. maybe i‘m just yapping to yap, but i hope this was helpful.
Jan 1, 2025
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small scale website where u share one song per day.... ur feed is just everyone on the app instead of a curated following list which i think is actually quite awesome and forces you to make sisters out of peers
Mar 31, 2025
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1- chili powder but large bag from the indian store
2- turkey hill double dunker ice cream
3- lysol wipes
4- cherry tomatoes
5- sugar
6- white rice
7- cilantro
8- chicken thighs (fuck breasts lets get fatty and rich #pleasure)
9- ground italian sausage pref. hot
9- mouthwash
10- wai wai noodles, veg or sichuan flavor
11- spinach or maybe another green but spinach would be good (i already have sliced cabbage mix from tjs at home)
12- dried thyme
13- frozen peas
14- frozen veg mix like carrots, cauli, brocc
15- green grapes
16- deli meat i want salami bad
17- anchovy stuffed olives LOL
18- cabot sliced pepperjack cheese
19- clementines
Apr 3, 2025
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sriracha mayo, raw diced red onions, cilantro, pickled jalapeños, tomato
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