from the perspective of being in therapy, i personally try my best to stay away from this mindset because it only hurts you. one way i break out of this thought is by asking myself a few things:
1) am i physically in danger?
2) has anything changed that will affect my livelihood today?
i think that a lot of times, we look at news and things going on around us or thousands of miles away and we jump to conclusions and kinda forecast what effects will happen to us or others in the near future. that isnāt so healthy if you canāt use this energy constructively to advocate for yourself and others.
so either we accept things and move forward, or we block out the nonsense going around us. personally i do a mixture of both.
Apr 6, 2025
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this is a really good perspective on these things. thank you so much !!!!
Apr 6, 2025
@SOURBOTTLEBABYGIRL no problem! and overall i donāt want to you think that this framing of situations is a way to avoid issues. itās more just like, there are good things and bad things happening. we are all going to die at some point in time. i sorta want to spend my time on earth constructively š
Apr 6, 2025
@CHIAWASE_ no absolutely!!! i figured nobody here is telling me not to care, just spend my time controlling the things i can
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I am a very neurotic person living essentially among a daily mist of anxious intellectualizing... Who is currently mildly concussed... Maybe. Thus my most valued personal system is physically or at least psychically affected which is interesting... I was told to "take it easy" and be watchful of signs i should take a step back and stop doing whatever it is that causes, for example, nausea
Historically i am always doing a "powering through" and "withstanding" action often to get to the most intense version/end of whatever sensation it is i am feeling at the time, i.e. with substances
Hannah from Girls -style, like, putting myself masochistically in the way of things to suffer and then write about it
This is good advice for many situations, to not do that and just stop sometimes
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Things that come to mind that Iāve tried:
Firstly, recognizing that it is anxiety. Helps my brain reframe the experience. I most likely didnāt do anything anyone is going to think twice about in a bad way, but rather my dang anxiety is going haywire again and is distorting things.
Loving boundaries with onself. I literally talk to my anxiety like itās a kid. I give compassion to it, but also draw the boundary that Iām not just going to listen to the same shit over and over if itās unhelpful. Itās not ignoring, but is is consicously saying NOPE. Iām not doing this to myself! Sometimes, I just need to recognize that yeah that was weird, wtf. But I donāt let myself beat myself up over it.
I also have some go to phrases that help me. Firstly, that no one probably cared or noticed the things I did. And secondly, so what if they did? Whatās the worst that could happen? They donāt like me? They confront me? I usually come to the conclusion that while some situations would suck, I actually could handle anything. Iām not a bad person.
Then I distract myself. I practice mindfulness in the things Iām doing so I stay in the present moment. If my mind starts to go back to that, I see if thereās more I need to feel but usually Iāve dealt with it and just say NOPE! Iām done with that now!
I hope this is helpful. Sometimes when extroverting my inner process Iām unsure if it makes sense to anyone but me. But, Iāve been there! I think a lot of people have. And it sucks, but thereās a path forward š«¶
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I am a social worker and this is something that I was taught early on that has stuck with me.
In order to help others, we first need to take care of ourselves. We do no one any favors by giving, giving, giving and burning ourselves out. This is not by any means suggest that we only take care of ourselves and ignore the needs of others, but rather that we have to put ourselves and our well-being first to a certain extent. We do not need to be martyrs.
The next is the We. This is your community. This is your family, your friends, the people in your neighborhood, your town. How can you best support them? How can you enact change on this level? This can look like being a supportive friend or neighbor. This can look like volunteering, this could look like fighting to enact change in your community on a governmental level. When it comes to radicalizing people, you have to meet them human to human anyway. You would be amazed how many peopleās hearts can change by developing relationships with people that are different from them.
The most outer layer is Them. This is people in communities outside of your own, even across the world. Itās so much easier with social media to be tuned into these atrocities happening all over the world. It is great that so many people feel called to Change on that level. Also, it is really difficult. It can be incredibly despairing to realize you do not have as much power to make change on that level as you wish. That does not mean you stop trying, it means you go back to the We and the Me. That will help ground you and give you energy for the larger, marathon like issues. Tune in as much as you can handle and find a way to contribute that is feasible for you. Like. bee1000 said, you do not need to be an expert. There is so much pressure with social media to be tuned in 24/7. Find a reputable news source to check daily, and see what you can contribute. Itās not about completely tuning out, but adjusting the dial a little bit.
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