Things that come to mind that Iāve tried:
Firstly, recognizing that it is anxiety. Helps my brain reframe the experience. I most likely didnāt do anything anyone is going to think twice about in a bad way, but rather my dang anxiety is going haywire again and is distorting things.
Loving boundaries with onself. I literally talk to my anxiety like itās a kid. I give compassion to it, but also draw the boundary that Iām not just going to listen to the same shit over and over if itās unhelpful. Itās not ignoring, but is is consicously saying NOPE. Iām not doing this to myself! Sometimes, I just need to recognize that yeah that was weird, wtf. But I donāt let myself beat myself up over it.
I also have some go to phrases that help me. Firstly, that no one probably cared or noticed the things I did. And secondly, so what if they did? Whatās the worst that could happen? They donāt like me? They confront me? I usually come to the conclusion that while some situations would suck, I actually could handle anything. Iām not a bad person.
Then I distract myself. I practice mindfulness in the things Iām doing so I stay in the present moment. If my mind starts to go back to that, I see if thereās more I need to feel but usually Iāve dealt with it and just say NOPE! Iām done with that now!
I hope this is helpful. Sometimes when extroverting my inner process Iām unsure if it makes sense to anyone but me. But, Iāve been there! I think a lot of people have. And it sucks, but thereās a path forward š«¶
Feb 3, 2025
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This might be an autism/delayed emotional processing specific rec, but I was often told I overthink things and for a long time I thought I didnāt have feelings like everyone else, just lots of thoughts. I would spend so much time and energy trying to figure out what was a thought and what was a feeling until my therapist just said āwhat if I say that it doesnāt matter and the difference is unimportant or non-existent for you?ā I canāt tell you how much that changed my life! Thoughts like āthis is something that is upsettingā would cause me such confusion because I didnāt feel the upset so I felt I didnāt deserve to address it. But realising that for me recognising that something is upsetting on an intellectual level is how I first realise itās upsetting me, and it might be days or months or years until I realise how it was emotionally affecting me. So acting, in the moment, as if I can feel the upset (confronting people about things, changing the situation, wallowing, giving myself time etc) is both allowed and means I can process things so i dont only feel them later or realise how they were negatively impacting me. the modern day splitting of thought and feeling into separate worlds is sometimes useless or damaging!
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I don't have a lot of advice other than stuff related to basically working on unmasking, which is incredibly broad and personal. but really the simplest advice I can give relate to that is really be forgiving with yourself. I've had to take on a lot of accomodations I never thought I needed and never wanted to do, and everything was still okay. or giving myself space and permission to "act weird" and do the things I actually want to do, no matter if other people understand or not.
I also just took a lot of time to find out what accomodations really help me and I recommend everyone to have a little sensory bag or safety kit... I'd be happy to share what I usually keep in mind if you're interestedĀ
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I am a very neurotic person living essentially among a daily mist of anxious intellectualizing... Who is currently mildly concussed... Maybe. Thus my most valued personal system is physically or at least psychically affected which is interesting... I was told to "take it easy" and be watchful of signs i should take a step back and stop doing whatever it is that causes, for example, nausea
Historically i am always doing a "powering through" and "withstanding" action often to get to the most intense version/end of whatever sensation it is i am feeling at the time, i.e. with substances
Hannah from Girls -style, like, putting myself masochistically in the way of things to suffer and then write about it
This is good advice for many situations, to not do that and just stop sometimes
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