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Don't get me wrong, like the vast majority I would love to meet someone and build something meaningful (romantically)
but I also do that every day of my life? Why is it any different than when I do it with new and old friends? Why is it not considered valid?
connections on dating apps feel rudimentary and disposable and the people you get a chance to meet organically there's this unspoken pressure in the air to immediately define it.
Maybe its the way the world is now, maybe everyone is insecure about where they stand and want to be validated and proved that they are worthy of being loved (which is true, we all deserve to be loved wholeheartedly) but also I like taking myself out to the movies and a slow burn that borderline hurts.
I want to be able to enjoy taking my time with everything and I want to smell the flowers and inspect the crack in the wall and look at the wrinkle on someone's forehead to the point of awkwardness.
I just want to take my time :)
May 9, 2025
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@CHOC_ORANGE because everyone wants it NOW! Which I totally respect we are all a result of our culture but I wish people would remember to Just take it in 😭💕
May 10, 2025
@2YOUNGTOROCK yesss and then on the other side of the coin no one wants to commit and just want to keep these casual for 8 months 😵💫😵💫 there’s no balance!!
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The social contract of relationships and the overanalysis of the process to get there seems quasi-masochistic to me, and not in a cute way. We seek to alleviate our anxieties about being valued by another, by reducing ourselves to the object of another‘s desires through our conceptions of dating. I think there is something to be said to finding love in moments with friends and strangers. Romance isn’t about not getting ghosted, or playing a game, it’s about bearing your soul to another’s hands, and them doing the same. A real love letter can be contained within a moment, don’t waste it by waiting for the next.
Jan 21, 2024
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I saw dating (especially with apps) as just a way to gain experience and practice different relationship communication, I.e. how to draw boundaries or bring up small conflicts (used to be a nonexistent skill for me).
I set some expectations from the get go as well. I said I didn’t text, and I only saw someone I was dating once per week. I had a tendency prior to become enmeshed really easy, so I was making sure I didn’t fall into that same trap. It helps give time to actually get to know someone before it becomes “serious.”
Also… YOU are the prize of your life. As others have stated, you’re seeing if someone can fit (well enough) into your full and luscious life. Keep yourself busy with friends, family, learning, fun, hobbies.
You have an awareness already that this is a thing for you. When you notice yourself starting to go insane, PAUSE! Explore that. See how you can slow down.
Jul 2, 2024
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just went on a first date for the first time in a while and it was so fun n sweet to just get to know each other without the usual expectation of a kiss/hook up at the end. i really think this expectation is tied to our craving for instant gratification. like we (ideally) have this really awesome date with someone and it’s someone new and shiny and appealing so of course it makes sense to go for a kiss. and kissing is so fun! i love it! and in some situations, it feels right to kiss on the first date – listen to your heart! but i just think we should try to take our time more with these things and aim for the delayed gratification that is made to feel so out of reach under capitalism. capitalism tries to convince us that we don’t have enough time and so, we think everything good has to happen so quick and in the heat of the moment, but there is so much time and good things take time and you deserve good things! also the more time you spend getting to know someone, the more life they‘ll get to experience, and the more stories they’ll have to tell you – we tell ourselves stories in order to live and to love <3
ok philosophical tangent over, but i just have one more non-philosophical thing to say: what ever happened to ”going steady” ? let’s bring that back to 21st century dating culture!
Sep 7, 2024
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⭕️Impromptu dinner dates with friends
⭕️Wearing clothes that show different areas of your body because after all, it’s just a body. Why dont your arms or the skin on your back deserve to feel the summer breeze?
⭕️revisiting records you forgot about and making them your theme songs for a week straight (for me right now it’s Good Luck by Bladee)
⭕️ telling people no but opportunities yes
⭕️ strutting -walk bitch-
⭕️ loving and not worrying about whether people will understand it. Love is seeping from your pores don’t worry about where it’s going. Let it glisten like dew
Jun 28, 2024
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I’m at 3% and I’m trying to see if I have enough juice to post this and maybe a quick scroll on twitter before it gives out. what do you do when your phone dies?
Personally I like to give a big sigh of relief, leave it uncharged And just look around wherever I’m at. I obviously don’t have anything else to do
Might as well clean my restroom
Or sort through the mail that’s been sitting next to the Garfield piggy bank -Ty crumbmode for it- that I’ve been meaning to empty
idk apparently anything is possible once my phone dies
1% !!!!!!!
Jun 28, 2024
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And the next time you link up with them they’re playing it?
Great feeling I think
Amazing feeling actually
Jul 8, 2024