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How do you healthily get through the grief of a lost relationship?

6 year relationship. It’s been 8 months since the split. Seen him recently and he seems to have moved on faster than me. Makes me question some things but overall I wanna be over it already. I need useful Advice for moving past this sadness. NOW

@babymille

4d ago

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@grape

Mooooore time. 8 months to 6 years is nothing how should you be expected to heal in such a short time?? Healing has to come at your own pace not your ex’s, but you also should try not to be afraid to heal. However I also think some people are simply not to be gotten over. You can heal from a relationship without being “over” someone. To let someone imprint and be a part of you forever even though they won’t be part of your life forever is a beautiful thing.

4d ago

@babymille

@GRAPE thank you for this. I’m gonna try therapy next

3d ago

@grape

@GRAPE yes go for it! Never had much luck myself, can’t open up to random people in that way. I had to do a lot of introspection instead lol. I think you’ll be fine in the long run, most people are 😃

3d ago

@babymille

@GRAPE I feel I’ve been so introspective that I’m not sure how much more honest I can be with myself. I’m hoping the therapist can present A mindset shift because I’m just mourning and longing. I’m scared of how long I’ll be stuck with this feeling considering how long the relationship was

3d ago

@grape

@GRAPE don’t be scared, 8 months is literally nothing like I said !! It’s so reasonable to feel the way you do now! As long as you make an effort to better yourself the time isn’t wasted

3d ago

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@elleperk

Mar 2, 2025

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give yourself time to heal

it’s horrible when people just end relationships with no reason, i’ve been there. you will for sure spend lots of time thinking “why” or “what if…” but the main thing you need to remember is that it’s their issue, not yours. you did your best, loved, and now deserve to heal properly. go through the grief and grow with it, cry as much as you need and allow yourself to feel that sadness. however, unless you think it’s strictly necessary for your process, don’t reach out to them to ask why. sometimes the answer you’re seeking has already been given to you simply by their lack of explanation (and at some point even respect).

@kkelmyss

Feb 19, 2025

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space, music, journaling, hobbies

for me it has been helpful to frame it as getting through heartbreak rather than over - i’ve felt it is more of a journey rather than having an identifiable threshold or fixed point of being “over” the person. so - these are my main recommendations for things to do to get through the heartbreak: this isn’t true for everyone, but for me and most people i know, one of the worst things for processing is being around the person a bit right after—it‘s like making your emotional process and brain not be on the same page—so space is probably the #1 thing i recommend as being useful to fully processing that you’re not together romantically. music (also films/shows too) can help you feel seen and understood—heartbreak is a unique type of hurt. i have like 3-4 playlists from different heartbreaks i have been thru lol! journaling, to process your emotions solo, though sometimes adding a therapist is needed! hobbies (solo or with friends) so you can find ways to do positive & engaging things in your increased spare time! spend some extra time being in love with yourself. ❤️‍🩹 source: my personal misfortunes, trials, & tribulations in love