Maybe seems a little lame, since I know most of us associate birthdays with parties and fun. But I think it’s the perfect day to take a step back and ask yourself what you did in the last year, how you’ve changed. Even if nothing sticks out to you at first, there is SOMETHING different. Even if it’s tiny. That’s why you separate yourself and embrace the silence so you can really focus and find all the changes in your life.
May 19, 2025
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It’s just you in the end after all, you have to check in with yourself
Mar 24, 2024
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Every year for my birthday I just pick something I’ve been wanting to do/go to and treat myself. Previously it’s been: going to a vibey dinner place, going to the aquarium and sitting in the leopard shark room, going to an art museum. I like the peace of doing something alone and getting to just be like wow what a fun life I live and how much more there is to see! I plan things with friends too sometimes but this little practice ensures that my birthday is satisfying to me in some way even if my friend plans dont always go as I’d want.
May 19, 2025
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for the last three years (at least) I've noticed every birthday goes the same way- midnight starts off on a good note because I'm surrounded with my friends and there's cake and music and dancing, but when i wake up the next morning there's just this... void. not a sadness in particular, but a feeling of emptiness. i get this strange feeling of having to do something epic or cram my day with activities, cause that's what is expected? cause people are constantly asking 'ooh what plans do you have for your birthday', but what if i just want to stay in and meet some friends and have a nice time? which is exactly what i did this time with a game night, but the void the next morning persisted. i don't think it's because of me thinking of what i've achieved in the last year and how i could have done more. in hindsight, you could have always done more but it was a big year for me- i moved away from home to another continent, started my masters degree and set up my life here. i think it stems from a place of seeing others my age and making comparisons, which is not something i like doing because i have always believed everybody's track is so different and there is no way to make a fair comparison yet i still do so. and so i start thinking to myself, "oh am i too skinny to look like I'm almost in my mid 20s", or "his t-shirt is much cooler than mine", or some other superficial thing that is purely relies on physical appearances. maybe i just miss having someone i can have deep chats with without feeling like I'm boring them or pressurising them to stay and listen, maybe i should just reach out to some friends from back home, which I've always found tough to do but better late than never
Apr 27, 2025
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I’m getting a new bed frame today, something bigger with more storage that matches my other furniture. I know I’m really an adult now because I am ECSTATIC about this development.
Three cheers for Facebook Marketplace everybody.
May 19, 2025
Jun 5, 2025
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It only has two base ingredients which makes it super easy to make. It’s also even easier to customize since it‘s pretty plain as is. Maple syrup, honey, vanilla extract, cinnamon, berries, granola… You can do a lot with it! Just sits overnight and then boom, it’s ready in the morning. It’s been my go-to morning snack for a few weeks now. Kind of a funky texture but if you can get over that it’s perffff
May 26, 2025