super chill cute towns like montclair or maplewood if u want a more suburban feel. jersey city and hoboken get u into the city quick and are themselves lil chill cities. i was raised in jersey and my ultimate goal is to be back there when it’s baby time because i couldn’t imagine a siren or random unauthorized construction waking my future sleep deprived ass up.
4d ago
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people will hate me for this but as a new yorker i love going to jersey. it’s always a fun little adventure and nj transit tickets aren’t that expensive. there’s a bunch of good ethnic food that doesn’t cost $15 for an appetizer + people respect you more cause you’re from new york. but you can’t just go to the new york parts of jersey like hoboken, i’m talking new brunswick/metropark/edison CENTRAL JERSEY, that’s where the real shit is
Jan 25, 2024
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I moved to a rent stablized apartment Hoboken right after college and I couldn’t really hack it. Beautiful neighborhood, great food, but my social life pretty much totally collapsed since all my friend + work was based in NYC.
You definitely need to move there knowing some friends/family or with a partner/kids. My family is from Jersey City/Hoboken, and I think if you grew up there its probably a great place to live, but ultimately unless you spend most of your time in FiDi or Chelsea don’t expect a ton of access to New York . Going anywhere in Brooklyn takes about an hour minimum when the trains are running and closer to two when they aren’t really running (pretty much any night after 12). I live in with roommates in Brooklyn now and I’m sooooo much happier, but also this was just my experience as someone trying to work as an artist in my early 20s
Apr 4, 2024
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Grew up in this unfortunate place. It’s so close as the crow flies that they decided not to give us trains into the city so you functionally need to drive to go anywhere (don’t get me started on the 90 minute Port Authority buses that arrive irregularly and take you all the way down to the Lincoln Tunnel instead of crossing the bridge). The towns themselves vary and some are larger than others, but the county’s vibe skews traditional family and I can’t see anyone under 50 without kids finding any sense of community or integration and I would recommend steering very clear.
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my mind no longer operates in the paradigm that, in my youth, convinced me that some (most) people were too [insert socially favorable adjective here] to be friends with me. as a result i was timid and insecure. i knew a lot of people and i thought they would never be interested in knowing ~me~.
in the past 5 years i’ve made close and genuine friendships with people i had previously put on a pedestal simply because i thought they were better than me.
omg i read a poem this morning that goes something like: “devotion is not love, it creates distance. you can’t hold someone from a pedestal.”
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a lil reminder that control is an illusion. que sera sera!
edit: they’re so pretty i’m happy they immediately greeted me with their open petals
5d ago
fell in love with him @ the hollywood sanrio store. my boy is thicc & unbothered. he’s a reaaaal badmon. i don’t even know his lore like that and i dead don’t need to. the vibes are right with this lil sucker.
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