i think recognizing what brings up certain feelings is incredibly important in addressing them - how can we fix something if we donāt know how it starts?
i realized That it was my morning and night routines that were causing me the most stress and messing with that peace that i wanted to achieve. for starters, phone in the morning will always stress me out and bring up thoughts that were unnecessary to starting my day. i let myself think for about 15 minutes (if i was good at meditation, id probably do that. But im not so I donāt force Myself) and then if need be I go on my phone for only necessary things. same thing with night routine.
i try to journal and get my thoughts out before That Hour happens and i start to overthink about everything Iāve ever done. so i can be prepared and think logically about things That might disrupt my peace i worked hard for during the day. laying out my thoughts on paper sometimes even makes them seem a little silly after the fact. and being able to name specifically what is wrong will always make my issues feel more tangible and therefore have tangible solutions that will, thus, bring us some more peace
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Iāve had periods where Iāve really struggled with this too. Before I give my rec, I want to emphasize that I think we all experience cycles in our behavior where we āmake progressā (whatever that means for you!) and then we donāt - and thatās really okay. I would start by figuring out if your body is physically okay. Lethargy/fatigue is a biological response to a lot of different things and it may be the result of unexpected health stuff! So donāt discount a doctorās visit. But mental health/stress really contributes to this for me, and it is often the biggest thing that breaks my healthy routines. This is where the loop comes in: healthy routines combat stress, but stress breaks up healthy routines. So that first day you start the healthy routine cycle is really important! For me healthy routines start with good sleep hygiene. If youāve been rotting in bed a lot and your sleep cycle is screwed, re-establishing that may be difficult. I would recommend supplementing your body with physical movement - preferably something rigorous (for your level) but also gives you joy!! No boring gym time - do whatever gives you endorphins. Consistent activity is really key for your body to not fall into a doom loop. And lastly, do the things you need to do to combat your stress. Set yourself up so that you feel you are taking meaningful steps towards progress. Start with the small stuff and donāt discount them!!! Often the small tasks are the ones that break us because they seem innumerable (for me itās always been folding laundry). But just remember, every small thing you do is progress and that will build your momentum.
I believe in ya! You have the power to change this, slowly but surely.
May 13, 2024
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Itād just be nice to remember what makes me feel whole before starting the day.
Iāve started meeting a pocket notebook on me at all times trying to reverse how often I reach for my phone generally but itās a lot easier said than done! When I do think of it I try to write three things Iām grateful for before doing anything else.
Apr 20, 2024
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Iām not gonna get into my whole night routine but know that I am a mother of two young children and while that makes it harder to do some kind of wind down nightly ritual, it is not impossible. I will note that because of our work schedules, we are working during normal dinner time, so I make dinner in the afternoon and usually eat that big meal early and have more of a lunch kind of situation later.
My projection is that everybody hates when I recommend meditation, but I recommend it because it actually works. You donāt have to do it for a long time, but doing a guided meditation for even five minutes can help Relax your mind and body. Yoga can be very meditative while also moving your body, so kind of a two birds one stone situation with that.
Iām a big water person so a shower and bath will immediately relax me. Journaling at night has at time been very useful, or laying down and listening to an album. I actually just recently started using a sound machine that plays a thunderstorm because I felt it helped my 5 month old and we all like it.
What is your day like that you are going to the point of exhaustion and then passing out? Are you not scheduling time outside of work to have to yourself? Are you psychologically emotionally avoiding feeling things so you donāt actually want to relax? A nightly ritual doesnāt have to be longer complicated, just different from what youāre doing the whole rest of the day.
Building new habits and changing your routine is hard. Start small and donāt bite off more than you can chew. Start by changing one thing and once you have that down, add in or take away something else.
Sep 8, 2024
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The picture frame on the right is filled with my favorite things that people have written in my birthday cards, so that when i am sad i can remember that people i love also love me. The one on the left is filled with Polaroids of my favorite people and a handwritten note from my great grandmother.
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it made me realize that i can just do Whatever i want whenever i want
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