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Rec'd on 💭 LONG-TERM FRIENDSHIPS
SOMEONE HAS TO LEAVE FIRST
That being said, I am a big believer in long term friendships, but like all really good friendships, there's an element of luck. But even good friendships can fizzle out. Be honest and reach out and people will either match your energy or they won't. You just give it your best and know that you did what you could. Which from what you said it sounds like you do. If they are telling you they don't want to talk anymore, than that's unfortunately beyond your control. You'll find your people and they will work with you to make the friendship last. You just have to keep meeting people and being open. Life is always moving. I've lost a lot of friends in a whole range of painful and benign ways and it never gets any more fun but eventually other doors open. Sometimes it's lonely, but it's a feeling everyone goes through.
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@moonbeams
Jun 23, 2025
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@okwetuu_fish
hm ive never been the one to leave a friendship(except once but theyre a homophobe) but the one im stressing over most rn we’ve deffo found we’re in different places and its just not going to work out i think im a big believer in keeping an open heart and open mind thru the pain and will continue to do so, i appreciate ur input master moonbeam (=´∀｀)人(´∀｀=)
Jun 23, 2025
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@moonbeams
@OKWETUU_FISH it’s best to just commit to friendships slowly so you know what you can give but I think there are people who tend to say and act like they feel closer than they do sometimes and those friendships tend to dissolve just as quickly. it’s good to be someone who holds onto friendships, but it’s also important to know when to walk away (I’m being a massive hypocrite because I’m very bad at it and cling to friendships for too long, but hey, yknow). anytime okwetuu, your mindset is admirable!
Jun 23, 2025
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@okwetuu_fish
@MOONBEAMS oh yeah i deffo thought we‘re ride or die but ig it was whiplash or culture shock to not have that reciprocated? ~neeverrr been so open with anyone else beforeeee~ i dont think ur being a hypocrite i think we all go thru times of mental and emotional clarity when we can say such things with confidence but then like with me now, i just need someone to remind me of what i really feel and believe
Jun 23, 2025
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@okwetuu_fish
@MOONBEAMS also seconding the slow friendship sentiment cause yeah ive got a bit too big of a heart so i tend to have a smaller pool of friends and acquaintances to tend to so that i can give those relationships the utmost care
Jun 23, 2025
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@moonbeams
@OKWETUU_FISH aw no I'm sorry! that is the worst feeling. also very very true! these things are always easier said than done as an introvert with similar sentiments I agree!
Jun 23, 2025
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it's easier said than done ik but I've had so many friendships fizzle out or stay strong as iron over the years and it rlly comes down to putting in the effort to reach out! like it doesn't have to be a lot but whenever u see something that reminds you of them give them a text or respond to an ig story or smth. plus it's important to know when it's time to let a friendship die, bc u can love a person and also have to admit that your time in eachothers lives have ended. leave with love and lessons learned!!! pay attention to who actively reaches out to you, bc sometimes it will suprise you and end up being rlly fufilling!!! however in the end it all comes down to acknowledging that if the love is good it will grow with you.
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@sillylily
Jun 23, 2025
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reconsidering friendships as you get older
I just don't think all friends are forever. I used to think every friend was worth investing in and fighting for to keep around for as long as possible, but it's becoming clear to me that it isn't always the case. Sometimes life situations change, or personalities change, or even the things you had in common with someone changes, and suddenly it's not the same. And that's okay. Other times it's the realization of self-growth and improvement that shifts you from friendships. I had one friend that I used to love to...well, gossip with. And at some point that desire to gossip dissipated from my life (for obvious reasons) and that friendship didn't seem that attractive anymore since it wasn't what I wanted to do. I remember when we felt the drift happen, it was so awkward for a bit but I genuinely feel like whenever we connected it would just become...toxic. And it wasn't like they made me worse; we both made each other worse. The idea of 'I have to leave them, they are bringing me down' is BS - it's a two way street buddy. They made me want to gossip / I made them want to gossip. You have to own your part in it. IDK! I just think at 30, there are people I though I'd be close to today that I am not close to at all and although I might miss them, I fully understand that I'm better and healthier and more sane because of that distance. IDK. I'm caffeinated rn. And in my feels. And Bon Iver isn't making it better!!!
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@marianoleonczik
Sep 25, 2024
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Growing apart is noT your fault (most OF the time)
People change people grow apart and that’s ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence it’s already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless I’m reminded 25/8 and while I’ve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; it’s somehow even harder for me to realize when that it’s ok if people are growing apart from me. It’s inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes it’s just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and that’s ok. I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i “change” friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but that’s besides the point LOL) but the truth is that I’ve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and you’re wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
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