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I think its beautiful that despite having beating hearts, ache, cells that divide, bleed, we have things that set us apart from the rest. Despite the fact we look for similarities when forming bonds, there will always be something to set the parties apart.
Take twins for example; the may be similar in the appearance department, but may differ to birthmark from the distance of eyes and even the slightest change of personality. Even this app for example; users can use the same emoji yet write something akin to that icon, have a reason to have chosen it among others and correlate it to a topic that resonates within them.
Maybe that's why im not very fond of the term 'there's plenty of fish in the sea'; sure there may be another tall guy if (hypothetically) my relationship came to an end, but would he be filled with fun facts? Have a love for building models, telling me things of planes and boats? Will he be gentle when he holds me in his arms, be able to turn me into putty? I don't think so.
Everyone has something that makes them tick, a passion, things that cauae a sick feeling in the pit of their stomach. We see beauty in things that others may not understand, have hobbies others may find weird, attend events that are to be obsessed over for days to come.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, opinions are formed from different perspectives, and no two decks of shuffled cards are alike.
Take twins for example; the may be similar in the appearance department, but may differ to birthmark from the distance of eyes and even the slightest change of personality. Even this app for example; users can use the same emoji yet write something akin to that icon, have a reason to have chosen it among others and correlate it to a topic that resonates within them.
Maybe that's why im not very fond of the term 'there's plenty of fish in the sea'; sure there may be another tall guy if (hypothetically) my relationship came to an end, but would he be filled with fun facts? Have a love for building models, telling me things of planes and boats? Will he be gentle when he holds me in his arms, be able to turn me into putty? I don't think so.
Everyone has something that makes them tick, a passion, things that cauae a sick feeling in the pit of their stomach. We see beauty in things that others may not understand, have hobbies others may find weird, attend events that are to be obsessed over for days to come.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, opinions are formed from different perspectives, and no two decks of shuffled cards are alike.
Jul 1, 2025
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âI believe that beauty is a feeling of resonance. What we define as beautiful is not in the âbeautifulâ thing itself but instead in how it makes us feel. I think that this is the alignment of said beautiful things with your emotions, values, and memories to form feelings of comfort and pleasure. Whether this âsomethingâ be an image, a moment, person, or a sound, it should resonate with us . This is why I agree with David Hume about beauty being subjective. What resonates with one may not resonate with another because we all have unique experiences, perspectives, sensory sensitivities, memories, and desires. As Hume says, beauty is based on the sensations created by something - beauty is not something quantitative with a set criteria, but is instead an immeasurable interaction between self and the thing we feel is beautiful.Â
However, there are many things the vast majority of people would agree to be beautiful. The explanation for this can be found in commonly felt senses, emotions, and memories - or common resonances. In this belief, I agree with Kant (to an extent). The human mind works in certain ways in all people. Flowers, for example, are widely known as beautiful. The first reason for this is how they appeal to us through our senses. The bright colours and the (oftentimes) symmetrical shapes create a visual that feels pleasant and calming. The human brain finds comfort in symmetry. The sweet scents also add to the positive sensory experience. We make a judgement of a flowerâs beauty based on the way, as Kant would say, our minds process these senses. Flowers are also oftentimes used as a symbol of congratulation, love, and gratitude. We see this in their use in graduation ceremonies, weddings, and birthdays. This can create feelings of positive resonance, which is what I define beauty as. Additionally, flowers are temporary - though their lifespans vary depending on the type of flower, cut flowers have an average lifespan of around 5 to 12 days.Â
I think that a limited time frame and rarity adds to what we perceive to be beautiful because humans are masters of adaptation. We become used to things quickly and easily. Even if the thing we find beautiful remains constant, we can become numb to it if we are around it all the time. Itâs like a beautiful things supply and demand, of sorts. Rarity allows us to be hyperaware and remain sensitive to the beautiful things around us.Â
Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Stay alert or you may miss all the beauty that surrounds you!
However, there are many things the vast majority of people would agree to be beautiful. The explanation for this can be found in commonly felt senses, emotions, and memories - or common resonances. In this belief, I agree with Kant (to an extent). The human mind works in certain ways in all people. Flowers, for example, are widely known as beautiful. The first reason for this is how they appeal to us through our senses. The bright colours and the (oftentimes) symmetrical shapes create a visual that feels pleasant and calming. The human brain finds comfort in symmetry. The sweet scents also add to the positive sensory experience. We make a judgement of a flowerâs beauty based on the way, as Kant would say, our minds process these senses. Flowers are also oftentimes used as a symbol of congratulation, love, and gratitude. We see this in their use in graduation ceremonies, weddings, and birthdays. This can create feelings of positive resonance, which is what I define beauty as. Additionally, flowers are temporary - though their lifespans vary depending on the type of flower, cut flowers have an average lifespan of around 5 to 12 days.Â
I think that a limited time frame and rarity adds to what we perceive to be beautiful because humans are masters of adaptation. We become used to things quickly and easily. Even if the thing we find beautiful remains constant, we can become numb to it if we are around it all the time. Itâs like a beautiful things supply and demand, of sorts. Rarity allows us to be hyperaware and remain sensitive to the beautiful things around us.Â
Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Stay alert or you may miss all the beauty that surrounds you!
May 29, 2025
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đșBy far one of the most transformative skills Iâve learned and am learning. Too often weâre trying persuade someone to be more like us, or weâre hiding our true feelings to fit in with someone else, but not everything in life requires compromise or consensus. Sometimes you can simply say, âOh, you want something different? I hope you enjoy that! Iâm going to do something else over here.â
You can be different, have different perspectives, make different choices, and it doesnât mean you canât be friends, lovers, or partners. It just means youâre individuals!
Only by finding the borders of our differences is intimacy truly possible. Then I know where I begin and you end. Then our compatibility isnât based on sameness but the skillfulness by which we can honor each otherâs unique selves.
You can be different, have different perspectives, make different choices, and it doesnât mean you canât be friends, lovers, or partners. It just means youâre individuals!
Only by finding the borders of our differences is intimacy truly possible. Then I know where I begin and you end. Then our compatibility isnât based on sameness but the skillfulness by which we can honor each otherâs unique selves.
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đȘŹ...apply that as needed. With every new connection lies the inevitable goodbye.
But everyone in the world is a little like and unlike everyone else. There is a wonderful sense of learning in that, and seeing how the patchwork of their personalities are inspired/evolved/derived from others-though it can be tiring to keep at it, which has become the sign for me to take a break, be with myself etc etc.
But everyone in the world is a little like and unlike everyone else. There is a wonderful sense of learning in that, and seeing how the patchwork of their personalities are inspired/evolved/derived from others-though it can be tiring to keep at it, which has become the sign for me to take a break, be with myself etc etc.
Aug 8, 2024
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I think that their story is overshadowed by other greek love (if you can even call some that) stories like Orpheus and Eurydice, Hades and Persephone, and Aphrodite and Adonis. I analyzed this piece for my art class in the first semester of junior year and am still working on it for a study; it's cool actually how something that takes seconds to admire can take hours to gain insight. Greek myths I think prove that there's a bit of human in everyone; forgiveness and redemption, power and betrayal, love and hate.
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Whenever I pass by a pair of baby shoes at the store I wonder what my life will be like ten years from now. Funny that it sounds bizarre to love something that doesn't exist yet I am enamored with my future children.
I like to think that maybe love is there, just in the unborn.
Loving someone is never a waste, and the thought of loving him for the rest of my life definitely gives me the drive to work hard; if it means that my back will ache as I hunch over my desk to illustrate or animate I will bear through it with a smile. I really want to pursue art, it makes me happy and I have so many ideas.
Maybe one day I'll meet with my highschool best friend, and we will sit and chat for hours at a café. She will tell me the trajectory of her life while I show her my current work in progress and explain that love did prevail. I'll tell her about my engineer who works hard, and the two little darlings, all of which occupy my heart.
There's an idea that you shouldn't expect things to happen because life is a roller-coaster, yet I know I can accomplish my dreams with time. You shouldn't be afraid of dying, you should be afraid of not living. Why live in fear when you only live once?