More specifically with queerness and lukewarm acceptance. Listen I get that change takes time but brother if you’ve already accepted the fact that I’m gay then the rest shouldn’t be a problem, but why is it still a problem
Used to get icked out with men over the most insane stuff. Would “lose” feelings in two seconds over the smallest things (por ejemplo: I am not proud to admit… ghosted a man because I hated his sunglasses…). Thought my standards would always be too impossibly high, I would never find love, etc…. enter: my first serious wlw relationship. suddenly, none of that stuff mattered anymore. I was baffled. I was talking to my therapist about it one day and deadass said something along the lines of “it’s almost like… I like her as a *person* who I want to *spend time with,* and I liked the guys I’ve dated because I liked how it felt to have a boyfriend” and I remember her just looking at me for a long time until I was like WAIT HOLD UP sometimes, the ick is simply a result of your internalized homophobia fam. consider this an apology to the male community - turns out I didn’t hate yall, was just playing for the wrong team ((real answer - the one thing that stuck? not tipping / being rude to waitstaff. instant nope from me))
HOT TAKE!
I know I prob need to go touch grass for being as annoyed as I am right now, but I just was having a discussion with my friend and her gf about how it is wrong that everyone is mad at Billie Eilish and Clairo for dating men. My friends explained that they were mad because both singers have profited off of making sapphic songs but rarely, if ever, have had a publicly queer relationship. They said they see it as them choosing to date men because it’s “easier” and bc being queer isn’t as profitable as it once was.
That take just rubs me the wrong way because, in my eyes, you are still a bisexual woman even if you only date men throughout your whole life. If you feel sexual attraction to more than one gender, that means you are bi. No bisexual person should have to prove to the world that they are bisexual. Who are we to expect a certain relationship out of people?
I should at least be able to look at my saved pins and reminisce when I have no wifi and nothing better to do, like cmon guys let me have this one thing
Going on family vacations is realizing there’s always a curse that’s taken ahold of your family, sometimes your siblings too and it becomes— sadly— your job to break it. But they say if not you then who?
