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I know I prob need to go touch grass for being as annoyed as I am right now, but I just was having a discussion with my friend and her gf about how it is wrong that everyone is mad at Billie Eilish and Clairo for dating men. My friends explained that they were mad because both singers have profited off of making sapphic songs but rarely, if ever, have had a publicly queer relationship. They said they see it as them choosing to date men because itās āeasierā and bc being queer isnāt as profitable as it once was.
That take just rubs me the wrong way because, in my eyes, you are still a bisexual woman even if you only date men throughout your whole life. If you feel sexual attraction to more than one gender, that means you are bi. No bisexual person should have to prove to the world that they are bisexual. Who are we to expect a certain relationship out of people?
Jun 11, 2025
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šøi think more bisexual people should try being nice and normal to lesbians.
there is just so much energy from our community being wasted on complaining about how hard it is to be a woman with a (cis and/or het) boyfriend. Actually, itās fine. just leave him at home sometimes
Apr 5, 2024
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Used to get icked out with men over the most insane stuff. Would āloseā feelings in two seconds over the smallest things (por ejemplo: I am not proud to admitā¦ ghosted a man because I hated his sunglassesā¦). Thought my standards would always be too impossibly high, I would never find love, etcā¦.
enter: my first serious wlw relationship. suddenly, none of that stuff mattered anymore. I was baffled. I was talking to my therapist about it one day and deadass said something along the lines of āitās almost likeā¦ I like her as a *person* who I want to *spend time with,* and I liked the guys Iāve dated because I liked how it felt to have a boyfriendā and I remember her just looking at me for a long time until I was like WAIT HOLD UP
sometimes, the ick is simply a result of your internalized homophobia fam. consider this an apology to the male community - turns out I didnāt hate yall, was just playing for the wrong team
((real answer - the one thing that stuck? not tipping / being rude to waitstaff. instant nope from me))
enter: my first serious wlw relationship. suddenly, none of that stuff mattered anymore. I was baffled. I was talking to my therapist about it one day and deadass said something along the lines of āitās almost likeā¦ I like her as a *person* who I want to *spend time with,* and I liked the guys Iāve dated because I liked how it felt to have a boyfriendā and I remember her just looking at me for a long time until I was like WAIT HOLD UP
sometimes, the ick is simply a result of your internalized homophobia fam. consider this an apology to the male community - turns out I didnāt hate yall, was just playing for the wrong team
((real answer - the one thing that stuck? not tipping / being rude to waitstaff. instant nope from me))
5d ago
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ā³More specifically with queerness and lukewarm acceptance. Listen I get that change takes time but brother if youāve already accepted the fact that Iām gay then the rest shouldnāt be a problem, but why is it still a problem
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You don't always have to be doing something productive or creative. Sometimes it is okay to just take a step back and exist.
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š¶I've posted about this once before and will post about it again, I'm sure. One of the things that I have noticed since getting letterboxed last year is how afraid people are to admit they like something. that new animated k-pop movie on netflix made me notice this again when three of the people that I have on there prefaced their reviews with a variant of "i consumed this ironically, but it was actually kind of good..."
...LAME... and a little bit pathetic to see tbh.
We really need to remember that you only live once. just fucking enjoy the stuff you like, and stop asking the world for permission and acceptance to do so! being so afraid of what others will think when you post a review under a kid's movie is more cringe than admitting you like a kid's movie.