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Used to get icked out with men over the most insane stuff. Would âloseâ feelings in two seconds over the smallest things (por ejemplo: I am not proud to admit⌠ghosted a man because I hated his sunglassesâŚ). Thought my standards would always be too impossibly high, I would never find love, etcâŚ.
enter: my first serious wlw relationship. suddenly, none of that stuff mattered anymore. I was baffled. I was talking to my therapist about it one day and deadass said something along the lines of âitâs almost like⌠I like her as a *person* who I want to *spend time with,* and I liked the guys Iâve dated because I liked how it felt to have a boyfriendâ and I remember her just looking at me for a long time until I was like WAIT HOLD UP
sometimes, the ick is simply a result of your internalized homophobia fam. consider this an apology to the male community - turns out I didnât hate yall, was just playing for the wrong team
((real answer - the one thing that stuck? not tipping / being rude to waitstaff. instant nope from me))
enter: my first serious wlw relationship. suddenly, none of that stuff mattered anymore. I was baffled. I was talking to my therapist about it one day and deadass said something along the lines of âitâs almost like⌠I like her as a *person* who I want to *spend time with,* and I liked the guys Iâve dated because I liked how it felt to have a boyfriendâ and I remember her just looking at me for a long time until I was like WAIT HOLD UP
sometimes, the ick is simply a result of your internalized homophobia fam. consider this an apology to the male community - turns out I didnât hate yall, was just playing for the wrong team
((real answer - the one thing that stuck? not tipping / being rude to waitstaff. instant nope from me))
5d ago
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i was at the beach recently seeing my little brother (not by blood, but by the sweat and tears of the hospitality industry) and heâs much younger than me and very straight-white-boy. and i am very NOT that. but we out here building COALITIONS okay?!!!!! and one of his younger friends (a literal child to me) was like, âyeah man you should pick up golf!!! itâs not always about how good you are but itâs fun to spend time with homies and sometimes itâs mad beautiful with the nature and sunsets, i know thatâs kinda gayâ
and my head almost did a full 360 rotation, but i was like this poor kid thinks APPRECIATING THE NATURAL WORLD FROM WHENCE HE CAME IS âGAYâ (DEROGATORY) so low key i felt bad for him!!!! this is my patience and wisdom showing.
so with perfect comedic timing, i hit em with the âif thatâs gay i donât wanna be straightâ and they both CACKLED (i am like a visibly gay person and my lil brother knows iâm gay and a vocally radically leftist lunatic) and they both kinda tilted their heads and were like âyeah good pointâ and i think itâs little moments like this that can soften peopleâs perception and opinions. sometimes ppl should be very ashamed of their behaviors, thoughts, actions. but most of the time when we want people to think differently, shame will do the exact opposite.
ANYWAY love yâall xoxoxoxoxo hope everyone is a little gay today (admires all the beauty this world has to offer) đđđđ
and my head almost did a full 360 rotation, but i was like this poor kid thinks APPRECIATING THE NATURAL WORLD FROM WHENCE HE CAME IS âGAYâ (DEROGATORY) so low key i felt bad for him!!!! this is my patience and wisdom showing.
so with perfect comedic timing, i hit em with the âif thatâs gay i donât wanna be straightâ and they both CACKLED (i am like a visibly gay person and my lil brother knows iâm gay and a vocally radically leftist lunatic) and they both kinda tilted their heads and were like âyeah good pointâ and i think itâs little moments like this that can soften peopleâs perception and opinions. sometimes ppl should be very ashamed of their behaviors, thoughts, actions. but most of the time when we want people to think differently, shame will do the exact opposite.
ANYWAY love yâall xoxoxoxoxo hope everyone is a little gay today (admires all the beauty this world has to offer) đđđđ
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đ¸i think more bisexual people should try being nice and normal to lesbians.
there is just so much energy from our community being wasted on complaining about how hard it is to be a woman with a (cis and/or het) boyfriend. Actually, itâs fine. just leave him at home sometimes
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đshow up to a party by yourself!! leave by yourself!! go to a cafĂŠ, walk, adventure by yourself. youâre all youâve got.
formerly biggest fear turned new superpower. loving it.
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