i feel like i went years just meeting friends somewhere, having them come over, or going over to their places. pick up your friends! go somewhere together! even if you donāt have a car, thereās something special about stopping by, waiting out front, & collecting ur buddy. also shout out to being picked up. this goes both ways.
A lot of my friends live in a different state than me and I take the train up to see them semi-regularly, which gives me something to look forward to often and makes hanging out feel extra special. Iāve also found that by coming to town local friends are brought together who otherwise may not have seen eachother for a while because life in proximity can often shake out to a āI can always see them next weekendā mentality. Visiting helps to sustain an intentionality to my friendshipsā which I like and think is important. Having friends visit is also very sweet and a rewarding experience that makes my heart swell. Additionally, having sleepovers as an adult is rare but sleeping next to your friend and having a coffee in the morning is a top tier experience which is not going to go wasted on me.
i just went to see some friends perform at a community space in a neighborhood thatās pretty out of the way for me, and my friendās car was all packed, so the two people who run that community space gave me a ride back home and we talked the whole way and even exchanged phone numbers! carpooling is community building <3
people talk about running into people you know like itās a bad thing but most of the time it makes my day. thatās small city CULTURE
it can happen like this: you make a bunch of scones and decide to a couple off on the porch at the house of your friend who lives down the street. as youāre walking you hear a honk ā another friend whoās driving down the street passes you and waves hello. loneliness epidemic WHERE? the world is simply full of wonderful people i love at every turn!!
my grandmas went to elementary school in Queens together. my parents had no idea and were from different states. incredible women and i am very honored to have their names x
i deleted instagram like three years ago. intermittently on tiktok (like two-day binges every six months). no twitter and nothing else. i love this little app because it succeeds where all the others fail now: in building community. thatās everything IMO. i feel so free everyday and canāt imagine having mainstream social media anymore, between the ads, the people i donāt care about, the pressure, and the whole ickiness of it.