sometimes the easiest way is to let it pass. Sometimes go wreck something. Other times its really whatever you feel like doing at the time. I'm at that very part of my life where nothing feels right. I don't know how not to feel this way, but i can always ask myself what i want and try to give myself whatever it is that i feel i need at the time.
Apr 23, 2024
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You feel how you feel. But you should maybe think about why it is you do or don't feel certain ways about this stuff. You may even find that you do feel something, or figure out just why you don't have much attachment to this stage of your life.
May 22, 2025
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Same. Ive felt in a loop of sorts. Like how do you let it all go. Like really let it go. Knowing that you had the answers and were denied the right to choose
Dec 25, 2024
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What do feel? Where in your body are you carrying your emotions?
Many of our patterns are learned behaviors that have helped us get our needs met. Maybe they were behaviors that were better suited for a different environment (like our childhoods), or maybe they have helped us get our needs met a little bit but not in the best or most fulfilling way.
First, it helps to know what our needs are so we can connect them to our patterns/behaviors, and our needs reveal themselves in our feelings.
Iβm a major intellectualizer of my feelings. I can articulate the problems and my motivations and many of the root causes of those problems, but then my therapist would ask βHow are you feeling right now?β and Iβd have no idea. I would have to *think* about it rather than sit with my body and feel it.
Learning to check in with myself helps me to get a clearer picture of what I need. That might start with my physical sensations. Am I tired and need rest? Am I hungry and need food? It can also be about naming emotions. Am I anxious and reassurance? Am I lonely and need connection? Am I feeling overwhelmed and need space?
Donβt talk yourself out of what youβre feeling. Not all feelings are capital-T true, especially as they relate to the external world, but all feelings contain truths to what you need and can bring you closer to taking new and potentially healthier actions.
Nov 28, 2024
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i see the letters and hear the sounds in my head but for some reason i just ignore saying it
Apr 26, 2024
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DOES ANYONE KNOW HOW TO STOP HAVING A FEAR OF BEING PERCEIVED. I GET REALLY AWKWARD BECAUSE OF THIS. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GO ABOUT IT.
Apr 23, 2024
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I was never taught how to handle money and that how i ended up here. Teaching myself as i go so i thought i'd document my findings.
Money is such an easy concept. Very few technicalities but that's it. My reason for deciding to want to know how to handle money is solely because i don't have stuff. I realized that even the simplest most basic stuff i don't own.
I don't have alot so i assume i should just spend it all without any planning. If i'm not careful i might end up doing the same even when i do get alot. So like any normal person i went online and typed in finances. MMFs, investments, REITs e.t.c
After binging videos on youtube i settled on the 50/30/20 rule. Where 50% is bills 30% is savings 20% is whatever tf i want as long as it doesn't exceed the set 20%.
When i said i dont have stuff. I mean my clothes are from 10 yrs ago that i don't even like anymore. I don't have nice shoes. I can't even set aside a few coins to get the cheapest hairstyle. By stuff i don't mean luxurious wants, i mean the most basic needs.
Because of this i've never truly felt that sense of independence. I have had this rule going on for a while now. I realised it gave me a sense confidence i have never experienced before. I am by no means a millionare, but i am proud i can manage the little i have.
I do slip. Spend more than i should, or use money i set aside for one thing to do something else.
But at least now i have a system in place that i go back to.
Apr 26, 2024