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been trying to internalize the idea that disagreeing with friends about something deepens your understanding and expands your empathy for different views and experiences outside of your own. Having the trust that you can debate something without it ending the friendship will lead to more interesting conversations and a more substantive relationship. And having these conversations in person so you can see all the nuance and care for each other. It takes work, but I think it's worth it.

@Shadowbeni

Feb 4, 2025

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@Viridian

real asf, if u can't have a friend with different opinions ur lame as hell

Feb 4, 2025

@theclack

I’m curious what the differences in opinion/beliefs pertain to specifically or which ones you feel like go too far. I’m grappling with some now that kind of feel like make-or-break worldview things

Feb 4, 2025

@Shadowbeni

theclack anything discriminatory is a hard line for me. that's just a basic value and I'm not going to be friends with people who put people down or above others based on race, gender, orientation or disability. Agreement on a problem existing is a good place to start, and then disagreement on how to solve it is where good discussions happen.

Feb 4, 2025

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