one of my favorite things about getting older is learning that this happens! my childhood best friend and i drifted way apart in high school and college, but over the past couple years have found that we actually have a lot in common again and have reconnected. we were always in each other’s lives but now it’s in a much deeper way. now i’m less anxious when i feel drifting from other friends — if we’re ever on the same path again, we’ll find each other. letting the ebbs and flows happen. i agree with the people who said it’s nice to reach out in small ways just to keep them in your orbit without putting a lot of pressure on ~connecting~
4d ago
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if theres someone you still think about and haven’t talked to in forever it is never too late to reach out to them imo! i have done this a bunch and the worst that happens is we reminisce about fun times before the conversation fizzles out, and that is still a sweet experience!!
i just started talking to my old best friend again after a few years and just falling back into having everyday normal conversations w her as if we never stopped talking has lifted my mood so much. dm ur childhood friends right now i’m serious
May 3, 2024
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the clarity and bravery that adulthood provides, in tandem with the urge to make the most of the little time you get to intimately connect with the folks who mean the most to you: these drive you to dig deeper in the single afternoon you have to catch up, talking uninterrupted for 5 whole hours.
even going on 20 years of friendship, there is still more to learn about each other. makes sense, as you’ve spent so much time in self-examination. but now is the time to share, and presenting for show and tell are their fears and yours, hesitations and hinderances and fumbles and mistakes. each time you meet, you begin to know each other anew. here, vulnerability is safe and matter-of-fact.
you speak on the knowledge you‘ve gained by suffering through experiences that they haven’t had, and between you is an easy and frank intimacy interspersed with laughter and silly noises. you’re not sure who else you could ever have this kind of conversation with. the love between friends feels honest and special, as enduring as with family. when you slowly start to shift their mindset by sharing what you’ve learned from years of struggling, from pain that seemed pointless, crushing, isolating, you start to feel that maybe there was point to it after all.
most people are exhausting but you spring away to catch the C train feeling renewed, and maybe a little wise. you are no longer children together, and that‘s okay because now you revel in your shared adulthood, in your parallels and your growth
Jan 28, 2024
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I always found it hard to keep in contact with people since I'm not the best texter. Plus, I usualy felt like a floater friend, like I just wasn't in the loop cause people liked others more. Of course, growing apart is nothing bad and if they were truly like that, than it's better that I'm no longer friends with them. However, I got in contact with someone I hadn't spoken with for a long time and it was great. Life gets busy and a lot of people are full in their head from everything. It's not always cause they never think of you (anymore) or don't value your friendship.
Jan 26, 2025
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doesn’t have to be your own garden to be a good time! could see if there are any community gardens nearby, they often have volunteer work days and it’s so rewarding to see bees and other little buddies enjoying your efforts :’)
Jun 21, 2025
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i read on kindle for a few years, until i started noticing that i barely remembered some of the books i read! i like to have a print book now so i can form a relationship with it as a physical object, which i guess helps me remember more about it. lately i’ve been buying them and giving them away after, but i want to use the library more too. lugging around a book everywhere i go is just one of the welcome inconveniences in my life :’)
Jun 11, 2025
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i was 5 years old and thought baby animals were super cute….still do
Jun 20, 2025